why do some women attract jerks and do never have sensitive men approaching and wanting to be with them?

Answer 1

I have been told by many women that I am a sensitive guy and I feel it is a fair assessment. So, speaking from experience, I can say that sensitive guys also tend to be shy. Shy guys are far less likely to be bold and outgoing and approach a girl unless the situation is comfortable for them.

So it's not so much that women are attracting jerks (jerks are attracted to women just the same as sensitive guys) it's just that sometimes women don't make themselves available to a shy guy. Jerks are often confident and smooth talkers so they are able to make a woman feel very good about herself initially. This gives a woman no reason to refuse a date, then later she finds out he's a jerk.

If you're looking for a sensitive guy, start by looking for settings that will be more confortable to shy guys. Where depends entirely on your situation. If you're a student, maybe try the library or computer lab. If you're religious, try church. Look for shy guys that work at coffee shops or delis.

The next step is to show interest, because shy guys have a harder time feeling confident and approaching women. Flirt with them at the counter of the deli. Make eye contact across the room and offer a coy smile. If he responds positively but doesn't make the first move, you might even try slipping him your number.

Also note that not all sensitive guys are shy... but a lot of them are. But also keep in mind that a sensitive guy could be very outgoing and still be somewhat unsure of himself when it comes to asking a girl out. So if you know someone who's sensitive or see a cute guy who seems sensitive, make sure you let him know you're interested. What's the worst that could happen?

As far as avoiding jerks... well it normally takes a few experiences with jerks before you start to notice the patterns and trends with them. Pretty soon you will be able to spot them a mile away.

Answer 2

I believe that, to some degree, women get what they ask for. Notice that I said "to some degree", and notice that I did not say "what they want".

Women can often be guilty of "settling". They want attention and affection...so they don't demand better behavior of guys. And, because they are lazy and distractable in a romantic/sexual sense...most guys will give as little as they can get away with.

I also think that women need to look good, but not "fetching" (I'm not necessarily talking about sluttiness...just a focus on external appearances). If you win a guy's attention based primarily on how you look, then why do you expect him to care about your personality and interests. Your appearance should only be part of the package.

Women need to draw strong boundaries about acceptable behavior. And, even though this will probably get me yelled at by others, I believe it's best to save intercourse for marriage. Otherwise, you just don't end up with the lifetime commitment you want. It's tough enough when you're married to stick it out sometimes. If you don't have that, there's no real reason to stay together when things get tough.

Answer 3

That's a good question! Coming from a different perspective i've heard that women are Not attracted to the nice guys because they come across as whimps. I don't know if that's true or not but i read somewhere that it's true. As you can tell I have no idea about what is true. I'm just throwing this in for another way of looking at it.

Answer 4

Alot of women who have had dominant fathers, who were jerks themselves, usually use these men as their role models. Thats one possibility. Another is women with low esteem and low self image attract dominant self centered men who insist on their own way, and these women are too passive to say enough is enough. Strong women with a positive self image usually will attract a sensitive good man. But its to improve a womans worth in her own eyes and for her finally realize she has a pattern going on. Only then can she see clearly the difference between a good man and a jerk.

Answer 5

Maybe they do not hang out in a welcoming environment for sensitive men to approach them. Hanging out in bars and other local hot-spots, usually does not open women up for a nice well-rounded man to approach them. Try meeting someone online. That way you can talk and get to know the type of guy they are before you meet. You need to look other places, blind dates - having friends match you up may also work. Good Luck. In my own experience, good guys find you when you're not looking!

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Answer 7

its just that these women who attract jerks are just too attractive for sensitive men, resulting in the women attracting those who feel that they are up to these women' standards.

Answer 8

because most of them don't think that the sensitive men are good enough for them, and the sensitive men tend to be a little shy compared to the jerks.

Answer 9

this question is actually really funny b/c one of my friends is asking me the same question...and i honestly think its the way the grl presents herself...im not saying she looks like a whore or anything...its just like...she looks like she's easy to manipulate and she'll fall for any crap he dishes out and most jerks love those kinds of grls or maybe they think she'll go farther sexually then other grls.....and plus its the way the grl acts around people.. if she's sweet nice caring and just a great grl then more sensitive type guys would want to be with her, but if she's more of a tough lil hard @$$ and watever then they'll feel kinda insignificant and like she's not their type..since she's tougher than him and all....but i hope that helps!!

Answer 10

A friend of mine has a theory about this. He states that a woman who attracts that type of man has "victim" somehow written all over their face. They are magnets for users and abusers...........