I have been working with my company since June of last year. I enjoy my co-workers and my direct co-worker quite well. Soon we will be taking a business trip which requires us to travel for a convention a minimum six hours away from our office. My problem is: My co-worker is a terrible driver in all senses. Shes told me since shes had her drivers license shes totaled two cars. I have already been in the car with her a few too many times and it has made me a believer! Not wanting to hurt her feelings but not wake up with hurting bones, how can I find a fair and unhurtful solution?
a paranoid passenger...?
2007-02-20 00:27:36 · 9 answers · asked by elektrogirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
forgot to say I dont drive - I live in Germany :-)
thanks everyone!
2007-02-20 00:39:44 · update #1
Go by train, I don't get into the car with drivers like that either, I care *lots* more about my own skin than about their feelings. Usually I just say I prefer to travel by myself so I'm not tied down to anyone's schedule -which is true, btw, I'm a loner and prefer public transport over the best driver, unless a place really can't be reached by public transport I never catch a ride!- and few if any people have taken that as an insult.
2007-02-20 02:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how many of you are travelling to the convention?
i think you should speak to the other people attending and designate a driver among you ... why is it assumed that the bad driver will be the one driving? is he/she superior to any of you, and thus assuming the responsibility?
perhaps you can take this issue to a supervisor or line manager.
there will be a way to designate a driver without having to say to the person "you're a bad driver".
if that fails, and it looks as though this person IS going to be the driver then you'll have no choice but to speak them directly - as a group if necessary - and voice your concerns, stating that you're not comfortable driving such a distance with them at the wheel, that it's nothing personal but that you'd prefer someone else drove ... volunteer yourself if you can drive.
will you be hiring a car? that makes it even easier - might be difficult if your co-worker is insisting you take their car, perhaps due to size, etc.
at the end of the day you're an adult, as is your co-worker, and you should be able to approach them in a mature fashion without being overly critical and without them throwing a hissy fit.
2007-02-20 00:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by brightspark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can offer to drive or find a way to take public transportation (especially the German system - they always have sonderzuege for conventions).
2007-02-20 00:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get an opportunity to introduce her to the driving school again, maybe by suggesting what are the areas she can improve in? Like, you can say what you will normally do, how you'll normally handle them...in different occasions
2007-02-20 00:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could volunteer to drive or discuss the situation with your supervisor. Explain that you do not feel safe riding with this person given her driving record and your experience, and you will need another accommodation to get there.
2007-02-20 00:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tomteboda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like man when she's hallin ***, and just about to go off the cliff next to the 90 degree turn, its 45 mile zone man this hag is cookin she be doin 85..i know the feeling bro.smoke some reefer hang on
2007-02-24 00:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by ashkicker420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a driver.
2007-02-20 01:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to drive.
2007-02-20 00:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her straight that she is a crap driver. What are feelings when you are lying dead on the road.
2007-02-20 00:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋