oh god... ok, here is the situation, my friend just called me up right,and pretty upset! ... her and her boyfriend have lived together for about a year now and have been seeing one another a little bit over a year... I need some help in order to help her... maybe a guys opinion, or someone who understand the situation? I'm not quite sure how to answer this ordeal.
She called me up stating that (supposabley her and her boyfriend have been doing really well, and I am a really good friend of hers, so I would most likely feel something going on if there had been), but I guess she was having an insecure moment and his wallet happened to be sitting on the desk, so she picked it up and went through it (whatever ok, it's not about that), anyhow, About 5 or 6 months ago, he had asked her to write down her measurements for him.well, she never did, again they Live together!, it wouldn't be Hard for him to find out! .... Anyhow, she found a really small piece of paper w/ measurements on it ...
2007-02-20 00:17:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anyway... THEY ARE NOT HERS!!!!!..
I have NO IDEA! what to tell her, nor what to think about it!, especially since, AT LEAST IT SEEMS SO?, That he is super happy being with her???... Augh!.. help me to help her out here! ... b/c I have No Idea! what to tell her... I myself wouldn't like it.....
Oh, and she also had told me, a long time ago, that she told him to clean out everything he had that was his exes and he said he had and that he had gone through everything and it was done! she had found a couple of things by accident laying around he hadn't thought about, so she told him again later... so twice now! ... this is why I'm SOO Concerned! for her!...
What am I suppose to think here????........
CRAP! .... :-/
2007-02-20 00:17:59 · update #1
SHE CALLED ME! PEOPLE!... I AM HER BEST FRIEND!... GET A CLUE! ... I DON'T WANT TO SEE THEM BREAK UP!... BUT I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO THINK ABOUT IT MYSELF! ... AND IF I DON'T HAVE A GOOD ANSWER FOR IT EITHER, WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK IS GOING TO HAPPEN!??....
DO YOU NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS WHEN THEY COME TO YOU WITH A PROBLEM!??...
GOOD GRIEF TO THOSE WHO JUST DON'T CARE ENOUGH ABOUT THEIR FRIENDS OBVIOUSLY.....
2007-02-20 00:18:17 · update #2
QUESTION IS SIMPLE:
NUMBER 1) IT IS APPARENTLY OBVIOUS THEY ARE MEASURAMENTS, S THEY SAID A CUP SIZE, NOT HERES, SHOE SIZE, NOT HERS, UNDERWEAR SIZE, NOT HERS, TOP SIZE, RING SIZE... ALL THESE NOT HER SIZE ON ANYYY OF THEM!......
WHAT IS SHE SUPPOSE TO THINK ABOUT THIS???.... WHY THE HECK WOULD THAT KIND OF THINK BE IN HIS WALLET, HE KNOWS HER SIZES, HE COULD LOOK INSIDE THE CLOSET AND FIND THAT OUT!...
THAT'S WHAT......
2007-02-20 00:18:48 · update #3
NEXT DAY:
She told him Immediately that she had found this in his wallet, and I'm not sure either... He gave a lame excuse that it was his exes measurements, the girl he dated before her, I'm not so sure about that one???.... Especially since she had told him 3 or 4 times now to get rid of ALL of the Major sh*t that would be around that had to Actually do with that, such as pictures, phone numbers, and memorabilia type of crap from Any and All Relationships from beforehand (look they got Serious! super quickly, He Expected the same from her as well!) ... Anyway .... Not sure after all of that how true it REALLY CAN BE??? Do You?... Besides, she told me he acted super cool calm to her, he's naturally a calm person anyhow, but still?.... He said he would have been Just As Pissed off if it had been reversed, etc?...
Sh*t... what do you think!???.......
2007-02-20 09:23:02 · update #4
Wow, this is a really tough situation.
If she confronts him, then he knows she went through his wallet and she's in deep crap. (VERY BAD IDEA to go through a man's wallet, even if he has nothing to hide)
If she doesn't confront him, then it will eat away at her until she can't stand it anymore, and it will put distance between them.
Well, the only two options here are:
1) They are measurements of an ex-girlfriend that he still keeps.
2) They are measurements of another girl he's currently seeing (cheating on your friend with).
If #1, then, logically, your friend shouldn't be concerned. An ex is an ex. Each guy handles ex's differently. Some guys prefer to burn everything and forget about her totally. Others like to keep mementos, or "feathers in the cap" so to speak. He wouldn't be the only guy to do it.
Also, and VERY, VERY IMPORTANT.... he could just have never cleaned it out. I recently cleaned my wallet out and found some receipts that were FOUR YEARS OLD. It could be something totally innocent.
If #2, well then that's a whole different situation.
Honestly, if your friend is capable of it, she needs to let it go. You need to be her friend and explain to her that guys keep stuff in their wallets. He probably kept the measurements so he could buy her stuff and just never cleaned it out. He's not going around spending money on shoes and stuff for his ex, that's pretty much a given, and it was probably totally innocent that he even still had it in his wallet, so she should just relax.
Oh, and be sure to stress that she never goes through his or any other guy's wallet again. Trust me, she will be much better off because of it. There are so many better ways to feel validated and secure than by snooping, which ultimately just makes you feel guilty anyway.
2007-02-20 00:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by wa-webguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to help your friend...the best way to do that would be to tell her to ask her b/friend about it. If he freaks bout her goin in his wallet....which he probably will...but he'll still have to answer WHY he has these measurements in his wallet. Sounds like he's obsessed by peoples sizes from head to toe. Even if he was cheating on her...who does this? Never heard of this before to keep ppls "sizes" on a piece of paper. At least she didn't find lipstick stains or phone numbers...or maybe it is a phone number in code* WHO Knows??
All you can do is be there for your friend and tell her COMMUNICATION HONESTY AND TRUST are keys to a long healthy relationship. Without those..you have Nothing*
She needs to ask him straight up what is this?? see what explanation he gives her....then again...it will be a matter if she trusts/believes what he tells her.
2007-02-20 00:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butt out. It is not your problem. You are there to listen and that is all. If you offer suggestions or advice and things don't happen the way she wants them to, she is going to be angry with you.
What business does she have going through his wallet? That is private just as her purse is private. How would she react if she found him going through her things?
2007-02-20 00:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your Friend to cut him off. If he's still in Love with her? He'll stay. If he's goin' out on her? He'll leave. Problem solved!
2007-02-20 00:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's from a previous relationship. I leave things in my wallet for years. Maybe he's gay.
2007-02-20 00:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by mutantmutilator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not your problem...if my girlfriend looked through my wallet she would be out on her *** so quick...thats none of her business...cause you know he dont go through her purse cause hes feelin insecure...my ***
2007-02-20 00:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by ikedomac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he's thorough.
2007-02-20 01:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by steemshovel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋