why do men ask the "how many partners" question, if you have had more than them your a **** if you havn't there's something wrong with U!!!!!!!!! i'm 27 and I can count ALL my sexual partners on 1 hand and yet my so called b/f thinks theres something wrong with that and he wont talk to me know so i dont whats the problem, i am soooo angry now i think il explode
2007-02-20 00:15:07 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Insecurity,he probably thinks your lying. He'll be worried what he's being compared too,for some strange reason.
2007-02-20 00:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by heebygeeby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is just being over jealous, over protective, and unreasonable. Also this shows that he cares for you enough to show these emotions
As a guy I'll tell you the less partners a girl has the more we see her as girlfriend material, as opposed to just a fling. There's nothing wrong with a 27yo having 5 sex partners, at least not in my generation.
BTW I'm 21
2007-02-20 00:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Eloy 213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is funny how society works. If a women is not a virgin or has more than 1 sexual partner some men get turned off. Yet if a man is a virgin or has had 1 sex partner most women get turned off by him. Funny how standards are so different between the sexes.
2007-02-20 00:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad. Sounds like he wants a ho. Have you asked him how many he's had? Is he proud is it's in the 20's 30's or beyond? Does he really think that having someone with a ton of partners is better? I don't know. I would be angry too. I don't understand what his problem is. Can't answer...I just don't get it.
2007-02-20 00:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think for anmyone to ask the question "how many partners have you had" is asking for trouble. This would fall under the "Don't ask questions that you don't want answers to" category. There is no right answer to it. If you say to few then you are "lying" and if you answer with too many then you are considered promiscuous. Personally, when this question is asked of me it is the death knoll for a relationship. I refuse to answer it in that it inevitably leads to an argument. Don't be angry this is just a good guide for you to know the lack of maturity of your b/f.
2007-02-20 00:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Johnathan L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a man myself I think what it comes down to is the fact that well if a woman sleeps with many then she is just out for sex from what it appears to be in a guys mind, although even though many guys only go after sex they don't look at it the same in there own eyes they look at it as a sports competition where the more you can do the better you are the bigger and better you are....
Just mention to him that it doesn't matter, you found him and you love him, and you were looking for the right person for you in the past unfortunately the right lover wasn't the first one you had even though everyone thinks so when they meet that person.
2007-02-20 00:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only man that ever asked me that was my husband and I didn't answer him. I didn't ask him how many before me either. I knew he wasn't a virgin and he knew I wasn't a virgin and that's all that mattered. (along with being disease free of course). Previous experience is pretty meaningless to me anyway. We had to learn what pleased each other and that isn't necessarily the same as what pleased anyone before. If he wont' accept you, then he's not the one for you and you need to move on.
2007-02-20 00:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Karen your Bf is suffering from an acute case of imaturity and insecurity. You need to tell this person that they have to deal with it and move on and be grateful that you haven't got a list of ex lovers as long as Cassanovas.
WTH is his problem. If he can't love you for what you are then show him the door and ask him to close it on his way out.
2007-02-20 00:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 27 and your b/f is acting like this, I think he is a bit immature!!! Your past is your past, and there is nothing worng with having few partners, just means you have more respect for yourself. Even if you had loads makes no odds you past is your past. I would tell him to either grow up or bugger off!
2007-02-20 00:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 27, you should be able to recognize that you're boyfriend has a lot of growing up to do before he dates adult women. Sounds to me like he is still in high school. I'd move on and I'd keep my "number" private until I met the person I was planning to marry.
2007-02-20 00:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that isn't the reason he doesnt want to talk to you...he just doesnt want to talk to you anymore...that is the most poorest excuse i've ever heard....if anything search for the real reason if it's bothering you...and for the record you should never discuss your past relations with your present b/c in some cases they will bring up things and hold it against you....but in your case i don't think that's what happened....he just probably lost interest hon....but it's nothing to sweat over...b/c men are going to always come and go.
2007-02-20 00:31:49 · answer #11 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋