does any one know how it feels to lose a close person in your family i need advice?

Question

i have lost my great grandma but no one no's how it feels to lose some one close and i need to get over it and i need your advice!!

Answer 1

I answered the same question by someone else just yesterday. There are more people that know what your going thru than you know. This is what I advised another:

I lost my first born child when he was 19 months old. I went thru alot of grief and longing for my life to end. It took the understanding and comfort from God, family and friends to help me over it. I don't know where you stand with God, but when you completely turn problems over to Him, He WILL bring a peace to your heart. My favorite saying is "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all!" Be thankful for all your memories, hold them near and dear to your heart and so to will your grandmother be. Time heals all pain. 24 years after my sons death, I STILL have times when it seems as though it happened yesterday and I still cry. That's the human in us missing the things that are most special to us. Your grandmother, along with my son and others, is in a devine place and will never again feel pain or suffering. Rejoice in that and know that one day, you will see her again! It's what we all live for! I pray that you find that peace soon. God be with you!

Answer 2

Honey, you don't need to get over it. You need to go through the process of grieving. You will be fine eventually, but right now you are still in shock from losing her. It's okay to be sad and even angry. Remember your Great Grandma. Embrace the good times you had with her. I do know how it feels to lose someone so close. You feel as though the world has cheated you. You feel alone. You feel as though nobody understands your pain. A lot us of do though. Please talk to your friends or family. Keep reaching out until somebody listens. I am so sorry for your loss. Linda

Answer 3

I really know how it hurts. I lost a cousin of mine. she was my friend, she was brutally murdered by her husband. that was in 2005. it was hard at the time. I had never lost anyone soo close to me , she was just a wild but good person. She left two babies. very young and innocent.
What gave me comfort is the Bible. Yes believe it or not i found comfort in it. It talks about people being raised from the dead when Jesus calls out to them and also how when God is King over the earth noone will die. Its truly amazing!
But i have that hope and i will keep it with me forever more. I will see my cousin when millions will be ressurected and i will definitely wait for that day.
For now all i can say is think about the good times you had with your grandma. Just keep her memory close in your heart and after a while the pain will go.

And hey...t is good to grieve, but dont let that take control.

Answer 4

Hi, It's really hard when you loose someone you love.
I lost my 23yr old Brother 3 years ago. he went to sleep on a friday night and never woke up! the was no medical cause, it was put down to adult sudden death syndrome.
Even know it hurts to think of him. i hate it when people say that time will heal the pain, and lines like that.
It may be true that time will heal, but for the short term, and that could be 1yr or even 10 yrs, allow yourself time to grieve. I was very lucky i had a brilliant GP who would just let me sit and cry, saying the occasionaly word of comfort. I was told to go for Theraphy, but hate the thought of someone analysing me. So i worked through it with the help from my GP, and my Very Best Friend, who had many middle of the night calls with me in tears!

You must give yourself time! i never knew either of my grandmothers/fathers as they had passed away before i was born. I see how my nephews are with my mum and dad, and often wonder what it would be like if they lost them.
Remember all the good memeories you have of her.
I really do not want to spin a yarn, but you have to give yourself the time that you need, there is no time limit, never let anyone assume that because it has been 1 yr or 2 yrs that it will be easier, only you will know when it is feeling easier!

I'm sorry if i haven't really answered the question outright.
I hope you will be able to find it easier soon!

Best wishes to you!

Answer 5

I lost my dad a year ago and there's no way to "get over it". You never will. That person was part of your life and it will leave a hole in your heart forever. It will hurt for a long time. Just cry it out everytime you feel like it. Don't hold it in. Talk about her alot. Look at pictures of her. Remember her a lot. I can tell you after a year, it does get a little less painful. I still cry and am mad. I feel the loss so deeply. It affected every aspect of my life. I see my mom suffering everyday. I won't ever get over it and neither will you. But you learn to live with the pain and accept it. God has been a big comfort to me. I talk to Him and tell Him how I feel. My family has been a help. Find someone to talk to about her. And cry all you want. It will help. Don't hold it in. God Bless You.

Answer 6

All you can do is take it one day at a time. It's healthy to greive but not to take it too far. It will take time and some tears but you will soon realize that you can't bring her back and that's she's in a better place now. It is hard. I cried for a long time when my gramma died. She lived with us and that made it really hard. I was only 16 at the time but now I'm 34 so I got over it. I will always miss her but I know I will see her again. Sometimes I like to think that she is my guardian angel. That helps. Good luck and you'll be ok. Chin up and smile. It's a new day.

Answer 7

hi,
I have lost 2 people very close to me. I find no one understands as every one goes through things in their own way.
I like to have photos around me of them. I also like to think of all the good things about them.
I have a belief in God so for me i think of them in heaven and not suffering. Not everyone has a belief in God and that is totaly their choice, but for me it is right.
Maybe you could talk to a grief councillor or a family member. Just let them know you need to talk. I found if i talk about them i feel better and i dont expect the person listening to give answers but to just listen.
I hope you feel better soon and i hope the good memories will bring a smile to your face, a good old fashioned cry can do you good too

Answer 8

It will take some time to get past the loss. Let yourself grieve and know that it's normal to feel the way you feel. If you have someone to talk to, it might help but I found it best to write out my feelings and my pain. It also helps to go through the memories you have, including pictures, and think of the fun times you shared with your great-grandmother. You will always carry her in your heart and remembering will bring her close to you again. Cheers.

Answer 9

*****************BEST ANSWER HERE****************
I lost my mother at 13. There is NO getting over it.....EVER.
People try to get you to replace that person, but there's a hole in your heart - a void - that can never be replaced. The first thing is the ACCEPT that this happened.
What will help is trying not to replace that hole, but to appreciate what you have been taught by that person. To honor them is the greatest gift you can give back.
It took me about 10 years to let go of the resentment of losing my Moms, but since then, I've developed by the teachings that she has given me. I'm proud of that and you should, too.
Nevermind people that don't understand - they will once they go through the same thing.
Don't be mad at them, either, because you can't expect them to understand when they haven't been in the situation. Just pray about it and let the healing process begin.

One love......................

Answer 10

Does your mom and dad know how you feel? I know what its like to lose someone, I lose my best friend 4 years ago. She didnt die, but she moved far away from my home. We've been best friends for 8 years and we did everything together, we went places together, and now...its blank and feels weird without her and i miss her sooo much. But i have plenty of friends. Dont worry girl, you have love and support everywhere around you. Be happy, your grandmother is proably in heaven watching over you so dotn think your lonley.