Ello, need some advice, long one this...
Been with a girl for a very long time now, but although i think i love her, it's getting really tedious and more of a chore to keep her happy.
Then recently, a very close friend came back into my life and now i think i'm falling for her. I'm getting indications that she feels the same and i'm just so much more happier being in her company. Although i'm not going to do anything whilst i'm still attached, i just can't stop thinking about her and the times that we've had so far.
Have you been in the predicament in the past? Did it work out for you? I know that it's not fair splitting up with someone to be with someone else, but surely it wouldn't be fair on me if i just carried on being unhappy with her.
TIA
2007-02-19 23:33:03 · 16 answers · asked by A_lil_Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is not a rehearsal, so go for it as long as you do things the right way there is no wrong in you making yourself happy!
End it with your current girlfriend, although this might break her heart now you are saving both of you a lot of heart ache in the future and you never know once you are not together you might realise how much you love her.
Once you are a free agent you can be with who ever you want to be with.
Good luck and be Gentle x
2007-02-19 23:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like the relationship you are in right now isn't working, it is becoming tedious and a chore to keep her loving you. Does she love you, or is she just clinging on?
New relationships begin often at the worst times, however, don't immediately put your close friend out of the picture. If you can't stop thinking about her something is there don't let it go. Friendships often grow into relationships when we least expect it.
Explain to your partner what is going on. Tell her you feel the love between you two is dying and someone else is coming into your life. She may be feeling the same way, just is afraid to let go.
2007-02-19 23:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to remember why you fell in love with your girlfriend in the first place.. If things really aren't going well then maybe you should think about leaving but to be with someone for so long you must have really loved her at some point..
The grass will always looks greener on the other side but if you do choose to leave her then leave her for the right reasons otherwise you may always look back and regret loosing her..
Relationships can always get tiresome and tedious at times but remember what really matters to you cos living for now may hurt you in the end.
2007-02-20 00:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Always Smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart should tell you what to do. If it's so hard to keep this girl happy now just think how it will be in 10 or 20 years.
Remember that you have to be happy in a relationship also, not just the girl. It's not fair to stay with someone for the wrong reasons either. Think hard on what will make all happy.
2007-02-19 23:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. you should never stay in a relationship you are not 100% happy in and fairplay to you no it wouldnt be fair on you or your girlfriend to stay in that relationship you are not happy in.
You need to talk to your "friend" find out how she feels explain how you feel etc and ask her if you split up with your girlfriend would she be interested in a relationship.
if she says yes then great give it a go and if she says no honestly i would still probably say to split up with your current girlfriend as by the sounds of it your not in love with her anymore anyway so you'd be better off out of it altogether.
and to answer the other part yes i was in this prediciment before only he was the one in the relationship not me and we are now together and very happy. it took a long time and he didnt break up with her for me he broke up with her because he knew he wasnt happy we stayed friends and said we'd see what happened and then we ended up together.
good luck in it all :-) x
2007-02-19 23:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look closely at your relationship with your girlfriend,is she the one for you,if you could imagine being happier with someone else then i dont think so. but you need to make this desision without the influence of a 3rd party.if i were you i would give myself time out on your own and really think about who and what you want, the grass isnt always greener on the other side.
2007-02-19 23:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... it happened to me once... the problem is that my bf was the one who felt like loving me was a chore... a friend returned and he fell for him... the result?.. here I am.. happy.. not because he's still there... but because of the fact that he is happy with the girl that he really loves... we broke up but we're still good friends... i freed him coz he's happy with that girl... and i don't wanna be unfair... i want the two of us to be happy...
I just hope that I shared a little something from my story... just follow your heart... if your gf really loves you... she'll accept your decision...
2007-02-19 23:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by SubySmaller. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what makes you happy and remember if you find it tedious then probably she is thinking the same to.
One has to make a break life is to short.
2007-02-19 23:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, take a chance. Don't stay in the same rut. Go for it!! Be happy!
Chances are your current girl isn't too happy either.
2007-02-19 23:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy with the old chick then get rid of her. Its not fairl to her that your tagging along and that's not where you want to be. If you really want to be with this new girl you have to break off your old relationship
2007-02-19 23:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋