Why do guys dont like chubby girls?

Question

I am so upset and i feel bad about my appearance. I was chatting with someone online, we always talk on the phone and we send each other text msgs too, he already saw me on cam and i told him that im chubby and that he should not expect me to be sexy like what he keeps on telling me. We decided to meet up in person, we had a date and everything went smooth...he is so sweet and i thought he liked me for what i am. Then when we went home he started to change suddenly...he used to text me 50 msgs a day but today i only received 4...hes changed...im so hurt.. is it because i am chubby? u might wanna take a look at me

http://www.myspace.com/einjela

please help im so down...

Answer 1

First of all, you definitely don't look chubby on your myspace.

Attraction is a tricky thing. Maybe he just didn't feel that spark when you were together. I know that can still be very hurtful, but that's OK because it happens to everyone. You are definitely not alone.

It's normal to feel apprehensive about your appearance, even if you look perfectly fine. Many girls have what could be called the "perfect body" but still starve themselves and even force themselves to throw up because they feel such enormous pressure to be thin. It's unhealthy and dangerous so please do not go down that road.

The good news is, for as many body types as there are, there are personalities to match. I know it can be hard to accept and understand that, but I promise you it's true.

Even more important, though, is to not place such enormous pressure on yourself because of how you think other people see you. Physical attraction is important, but let's face it, we're all going to get old and wrinkly someday. Before you get too caught up in the appearance thing, take a moment to consider the aspect of personality, similar values and morals, goals, etc. If you don't share enough common ground, it may not be worth it to stress over how attractive he thinks you are.

Now, that being said, if you want to feel better about yourself, just start exercising regularly. 30 minutes a day is as effective as pretty much any prescription anti-depressant on the market. You'll feel a lot better about yourself, even if your body mass doesn't change a bit. It doesn't have to be high-impact either... medium intensity walking is even enough to make a big difference to your self-esteem. Plus, if actually do have weight to lose, you probably will.

You could also consider seeing a physician if you don't eat much and already exercise but can't seem to lose weight. You might have a food allergy or metabolic condition that could be treated.

Answer 2

Clearly you have a distorted self body image of yourself. You are anything BUT chubby. Honestly, if the guy changed his tune with you, then chalk it up to yet another jerk you'll experience in your lifetime. Don't let him get you down when you have no reason to feel down.

And while he's hitting the road, maybe you can take a step back and figure out why you've come to think of yourself as chubby. Not all men care about their girl's self esteem, but most guys want a girl who is comfortable in her own body... and you deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin! Work on yourself... learn to see just how perfect you are; with or without a man!

I wish you the very best!

Answer 3

There are some that do, but you would be healthier if you could lose some weight. Try walking a lot; start out at about half a mile a day then gradually increase up to 2 miles a day, and quit drinking carbonated drinks; not even diet Coke; they are all bad for you. Also quit eating white bread unless it's Sara Lee's Delightful White.

Answer 4

Just because the guy stops txting you like crazy doesn't mean he doesnt like you, and a true friend, bf, or lover, isnt a true friend if he stops doing that just because you are chubby. A true friend likes someone for what lies inside your heart. You should ask him about it. No reason to be down. And trust me, you are so not chubby. IF he thinks so, he has blurred vision. Just ask him if everything is okay, and his reply will be the answer. Take care.

Answer 5

Well if its the picture im looking at, i think your pretty cute pay no attention to this guy hes being a jerk, theres plenty more guys out there, and your certainly not chubby in any shape way or form, boy i wish i was 18 again.

Answer 6

Well i am sorry for all this but believe i know so many guys who like chubby girls. Even one stupid is sitting right here in my office. He never look at any lean figure ans says girls look better with more flesh.

It is all because of Fashion TV, they are screwing everything. My wife is starving her self every day to loose her weight. I am ok with it, i am not married to her figure but the person , her soul. I bet she is such a lovely person.

But you know what has happen to guy today but never loose home, there are guys who look for girls like you.

Answer 7

If it's your body, you don't want him anyway, But maybe it was something else maybe you were nervous about finally meeting him and you weren't as open as you were on-line.you can send a pic if you want, but I don't think that's it, He already saw a pic of you and it didn't drive him away. Text him and discuss it, It might be that he was nervous to. I would like to know how this turns out.

Answer 8

You should.t let this guy get you down, you look gorgeous and if i looked like you then i'd be very happy!This guy is not worth it if it is your appearance that has put him off but before you jump to conclusions ask him...something might be going on in his life at the moment that is stopping him from contacting you so much!
Good luck

Answer 9

look im the same and a boy hasn't even looked in my direction for 4 years i feel the same and ive done everything litterally to loose weight but i hasnt worked and rwemember its not whats on the outside that counts but whats on the inside

Answer 10

You never want a man who only looks on the OUTWARD apperence. You need a man who will love and respect you from the Inside and Out.
Dont settle for a bimbo like that, you dont want to get your heart broken.