I have nothing to live for my heart hurts with pain..it would be my release of my pain...which I think I deserve. I am tired of hurting and all the pain.
2007-02-19 23:21:10 · 17 answers · asked by Navulam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have no family at all and not any close friends..my parents died last year..that were my best friends and my ex was my only true friend/love he is gone now.
2007-02-19 23:32:19 · update #1
Selfish if there is no one and nothing left? And what is wrong with me choosing my path if it only effects me?
2007-02-19 23:35:18 · update #2
I said I have no family......so if thats the only reason not to then its ok for people who dont have family/friends..cool
I hurt so bad and selfish is living just to please myself same as dying to please myself
2007-02-19 23:45:00 · update #3
anyone who claims that suicide is selfish has obviously not experienced the depression you face. suicide is not a selfish act, its an act of abject hopelessness and desperation.
my advice to you tho, is find someone to talk to. someone smart and understanding, someone who can comprehend what you're going through. try to get to a psychiatrist and have them prescribe you anti-depressants.
most of all, understand that you are not alone in this world, and there are people out here who really can understand what you're going through.
the root of all depression is a feeling of being alone and without purpose... but understand that purpose really doesn't matter one bit. when you are enjoying your life, you don't need a purpose. its only when your life is painful that you need something to justify living every day... really think about that...
keep living strong... life doesn't have to be painful... have FUN with it, don't take it too seriously, do fun things, enjoy simple pleasures, meet people... life is pretty fun and entertaining ONCE u take control of it... don't let depression dictate the way you feel... do things that MAKE you happy... u truly have control over your own happiness...
just stay strong and live the happiest life you can live... things will be better, i promise you...
2007-02-22 16:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want you to read a poem I wrote after finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and beating my 7 year battle with depression:
SILENT WISHES
Death is only an option
To which the weak will adhere
There is nothing to be afraid of
So why must you fear
That which cannot harm you
Although may inflict the wound
Is simply a choice in which
You are choosing to be doomed
Answers will be found
If you dare to ask, the questions why
Life is your savior
But should not be lived a lie
A pathway to absolution
Is only found within
Do not cheat your journey
Before it is time to begin
Struggle is familiar
Amongst those who are strong
Discover who you are
For this is where you belong
Dance with your demons
Until they come undone
Then your eyes will be opened
And you will see...
You have won.
It breaks my heart to hear that you are feeling like this and I don't even know you. I don't agree with suicide, even though I must admit - I have in the past thought about it. Please don't allow yourself to believe that this is your only option...because it's not! Personally, I don't consider it selfish - however, the act would rob the 'future you' - of happiness and the purpose you were put on this earth for. I know it probably seems too hard to soldier on right now - but think of how strong you are to have coped so far and eventually...how much of an inspiration you will be when you defy the odds and emerge from this situation triumphant and in control! You can do it - trust me...with the darkness comes the light and in my experience I am now such a better friend and human being just for having experienced the heartache I went through. You've got great potential - Please don't waste it.
Depression forces you to soul search - and by doing so you can discover who you are, who you wish to be, your place in the world and what genre you want the movie of your life to be. Please don't write a tragedy!
I could be here all day talking to you, but it would probably just get annoying. So, I hope I have at least acted as a bit of support...
Stay safe and try to smile girl...I'm thinking of you... :)
2007-02-21 10:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by *lostdownhere* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about your boyfriend and I certainly do not think committing suicide is selfish. I've worked with some extremely suicidal people; such that they were detained under the mental health act - I think this in itself highlights the state of mind that the individual is in. The fact is, a suicidal person couldn't even acknowledge the emotion of 'selfishness' let alone have the capacity to think beyond what is immediately in front of them. The sense of helplessness is intensely overwhelming - which I don't think any of us can understand unless we've been there ourselves. I've also lost a friend to suicide. I didn't think they were selfish - to be honest anyone who thought that she was selfish was reflecting far to much on their own thoughts and feelings - which I feel was more selfish than anything else! I mean, what about her feelings? Her desperation? I can't begin to describe how tragic it is that someone believes that their life, and everyone elses life, would be better off if they weren't here. I just can't comprehend it.
2016-05-23 22:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to someone first? Suicide is considered a selfish act because it's basically a cop-out and you basically take the easy way out. You need to hang in there, nothing is ever as bad as it seems. What you need is a good friend, no matter who it may be, to talk to about your issues, who won't judge you. You really need help. Suicide is not the answers, and being that I work in the medical profession 90% of the time it is unsuccessful, our jobs are to save lives, and believe me we will do it in any means possible, that is why it's usually unsuccessful. There are other answers out there. Please get help before you just end your life and cause your family and friends a huge amount of grief and pain. Your parents, siblings, friends, and other close family will be left with an early burial, funerals are not inexpensive - think about that huge responsiblility you will put on your family. You are way too young to die. Please get help, or talk to someone! If you need to email me I will be glad to talk to you - absolut_nixter@yahoo.com - I'll do what I can to help you.
2007-02-19 23:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 years old and have lived in chronic pain since 1997. I am in physical pain 24/7. I have also had my share of emotional pain in my life. Even with this to deal with, life is still worth living. Each day brings something new and you never know what the future holds. I thought about suicide at one point in my life, but then stopped to think about what it would do to my sister, brother and my parents. It's not fair to put those you love through so much pain, agony and guilt because they couldn't stop you or didn't know how bad you were. Suicide ruins the lives of those left behind.You may think no one cares about you, but that's not true. Nothing is so bad that it won't eventually get better or easier to handle. Imagine living in physical pain every day, not being able to do anything you used to do and not being able to work to take care of yourself. Look around you, your life could be worse, believe me. Never give up...life is full of surprises and the future may bring you wonderful things. Hang in there. If you think it can't get any worse, then it can only get better. My 1st wife left me after my car accident and we were told I'd be in a wheelchair. Imagine the pain of the one you love running out on you when you are laying in the hospital wondering if you'll ever walk again. I know deep heartfelt pain. Well, I now am married to the most wonderful woman and we are best freinds and partners in life. I never thought I'd find that, but God brought her into my life at one of my lowest points. Never give up! Life is not easy and is full of ups and downs. But we have to learn to make it through the bad knowing that good will follow. You have a lot of life left to live. Turn your pain into the energy you need to do something for yourself and start living again. Good luck to you!
2007-02-19 23:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody feels that way at one time or another. Life is tough. No doubt about it, but suicide really is the easy way out. And when you think about all the people that care about you, and their feelings, and how much it would hurt them if you were to do it, then it can be considered selfish. You really need to talk to a professional. They have medication for everything nowadays, and they can find something that will work for you, and maybe, you will be happy. It's worth a shot right?
2007-02-19 23:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is Pain. Life is going through happy and hard times. Life is what you make it to be.
People can either choose to let life and the hurt eat them alive, or they can choose a better life and Live in Freedom and Happiness.
You may have had a rough life, but Who hasnt? You may not have friends or think there is nothing to live for, But there is!
You have a Purpose on this earth, your still here. Taking your life will only allow your life to end soon and for you to spend eternity in hell.
The source of Life you need is Jesus. Accept Him, and depend on Him to make your life happy! Christians have it hard too, but the joy knowing that The Lord is there to walk us through it, makes it so much better.
Your not alone, your life is worth something. I know your wanting help and your seeking for truth. Well here is it. Dont hide and run away from it anymore, and dont let other people determine who you are or where you are going.
Look up , your future holds alot of promises if you choose to walk that path.
2007-02-19 23:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about thinking you are selfish, but some people will think it might have been their fault and they will be miserable for the rest of their lives. Suicide is not the answer; you don't really know what's on the other side. Try talking to some of your family or friends and look for something to make life enjoyable. Give God a chance.
2007-02-19 23:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by supertop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its always sad and painful when you lose the one's you love in death and in life, it sounds as though you've had a tough trot, but do you really think that this is the answer... please don't lose faith in your ability to bring yourself out of this shake off that black shadow which looms around you and bring in the sunshine. Here is something you could try go and visit a childrens hospital or a facility which houses people with disabilities spend some time with them seeing how bad life is fo some of these people may help you to see that your life really is precious.
Life is a gamble
Death is a guarantee
2007-02-19 23:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by jacqueline i 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant. You need to see someone there are bereavement councillors to help you deal with your loss. It is very selfish to kill yourself as think of the loved ones you leave behind to pick up all the pieces. I know you said there is noone but that cannot be true there will be plenty of peole out there that care an awful lot about you whether you realise it or not. Please go get some help
2007-02-20 00:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋