how can i get my boyfriend to show his emotions with me more?

Question

he's not that showy with his emotions but he wasn't always like that... he had a few heartaches a while back and that's probably why..i feel he has boundaries around himself although he tells me that with me, he doesn't...but i still can't help feeling that he's holding back...help pls...

Answer 1

if it's a new relationship it might take time for the walls to come down, i have been with my bf for three years and we are both constantly changing. both of us had walls up in the begining, then we started to let them down, maybe a year later and we thought we had!! but this year it has been so much more. it is scarey bringing in a vulnerable side when you have been hurt, it may not even be good. because vulnerable can bring insecurities too. the walls can make you stronger. thats what i found anyway! it made me feel weaker, and only now i'm starting to build it up strong, but still be open to him. so give it time! dont push him, it is his own thing, and let him know he can depend on you.

Answer 2

You know most of people's behavior is transmitted from one to Anther...when it is in the relationship the transmission would very massive...whatever kind of problem he has been in
he would act the way you do. Forget what he would say to you if you are emotional and passionate...be passionate, emotional, be open and tell him how you fell when he touches you and make love to you.... then you will find him into it.
Don't you think this is because he was down twice that he is not trusting any one...why don't you be open emotional and passionate so that he would know you more than he do and he would act as you want when he develop a trust on you that you would not pock his wounded hear

Answer 3

Dont force him to show emotions .Let time pass maybe he might change or will tell you why he has changed.In the meantime be patient with him but if it takes long ask him why.If he still cant tell you then he doesnt trust you and it would be better to find someone else.

Answer 4

There are certain way ,

1: Show extra care.
2: Surprise him now a than, with small gifts, nice dinner.
3: Fall sick (see if he really cares).
4: When he come home make him cozy, feed him, sit with him, watch movie with (of his choice).
5: Join him when he is taking bath with at bottle of beer , when he is busy gulping it in rub soap or shampoo on him.

this works on us, my wife usually do these tricks why my mood is off. She know who to click the right button.

Answer 5

If your relationship is rock-solid, you could withhold physical intimacy until you are satisfied with his emotional expression.

This may be a high-risk strategy. It may result in permanent damage to your boyfriend. You will have to decide how much this is worth to you.

Answer 6

Just keep encouraging him to tell you things, But dont push him.In time he will learn to understand that He is safe with you, but until He gets there, He will probably not share everything.
A good girlfriend/wife is someone who is willing to listen when its time. So just be patient and love him.

Answer 7

There's no need asking for help with this one, He has to do this on his own. Just casually letting him know when he's holding back is most you can do at this point. the rest is up to him.

Answer 8

He might be really sad about something, for instance, he might be hideing something from you, or from someone, or he might be going into depression, just be really nice to him, and tell him that he can say anything to you, and other things like that.

Answer 9

he is afraid ofexposing himself to more pain. That is why he is behaving like this.
You need to learn more about how men behave.
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