we met when he was having a problem with his girl & we started a relationship based on an understanding dat we both have our relationships. d thing is I am in love with him & he said he loves me too but he is still in his relationship. can we ever be for each other?
2007-02-19 22:57:03 · 14 answers · asked by Patience Ene E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. better kick him out.
2007-02-19 23:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being used.
He loves you, sure, but with you he doesn't have any of the responsibilities that come with a relationship.
He's never going to give up his current relationship, he is going to use you as long as he can.
You will be wasting your time and your life away on a man that will come up with the usual lies about why he can't break up with his current wife/gf just yet.
He's taking you for a ride, he loves the exitement but doesn't want the commitment.
If his gf/wife ever finds out, it might be the end of their relationship. At that point, you are suddenly far less exiting (because it's not 'forbidden' anymore), OR you will end up with an unfaithful man. Will he ever be faithful to you? Ever? He's not faithful to you now, and he never will be.
Anyway, you knew all that already, but you love living in this fantasy, in which you love him and he loves you.
Sure.
Waste your time, your love and your life.
2007-02-20 07:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love works in strange ways. Sometimes the one who was meant for you shows up at the worst possible time. If you feel this guy is the one, follow your heart. If you are falling in love with him, nothing you do will change how you feel about it, so just let your life take the course it was meant to. People who are in relationships find someone else all the time, don't be ashamed of your emotions. He is not married to her right? So don't feel guilty about taking her man away.
He should be honest with the one he is in a relationship with.He should let his partner know that he is starting to have feelings for someone else. It is the only ethical thing to do.
2007-02-20 07:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's love. You became his rescuer.
To say he loves you is not enough if the action
is not there.
Action speaks much louder. .
He's was just having problem with his gf, but he
turned to you, he's honest to his gf and to you as
well. you rely on his word, they are shallow.
I bet the word he said to his gf, that he loves her
and most probably his gf didn't know, there 3 of you
in that relationship, it would not work, it's crowded.
He's only keeping you in case he's in trouble with
his gf again.. Sorry but I really do think you'll just
gonna get hurt sooner or later, guard your feelings
as if it is possible, and you can do it,,
you're a strong girl..
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2007-02-20 07:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by JUSS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. This man is holding onto the other relationship for some reason. My intutition tells me he isn't being straightforward with you about how he really feels. I think he wants to as they say "have his cake and eat it too". I don't think he is even honest with himself about how he feels. He wants you to be there when and if the other relationship fizzles. Do yourself a favor and distance yourself from him and find someone who is a little more honest.
2007-02-20 07:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple if you love him, and he loves you, then you should both brake of other things and be together with each other, if he truely loves you then he will want to mak eyou happy, and that mean dropping his other girl, in a nic erespectful manner, and you breaking up with whatever you have in a nice respectful manner, then being together.
2007-02-20 07:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this . . .
Say he leaves his current ' love ' for you. He shares his time and heart with you alone.
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He is then with you and loves you . . . Later he meets some other woman and that other woman is saying . . . " He and I love each other yet he is in a relationship with this other woman (you)" .
Who is he ' in love ' with. . . You ? The other new woman who ' loves him ?. This new woman is asking " He says he loves me yet he is still with her (you) . . . Can we ever be for each other. ?
True love is exclusive love . . . you know that. One that truely loves you has their heart and love for you alone...not skulking off the the side with another. You are ' touching' another woman's guy. . . the heart of a man who some other woman loves. And you are being devaluing to your own heart that you would love a man who is not committing his heart to you exclusively.
You are ' in love '. . . Yet, are you are ' in value ' ? " In respect " ? ' In honor ' to yourself and some other woman's man ? With love comes responsibility with that love. Being ' in love ' is not all that it is about.
2007-02-20 07:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by onelight 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation a while ago! except that now i broke up with my boyfriend and he broke up with his girlfriend. i guess you should tell him that if youre worth it, he should break up with his girl. if he doesnt, then hes not worth your troubles and back out. i know it will be hard because you love him. im not saying to just forget him... just, leave him be
2007-02-20 07:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Ariana*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you end a relationship to be with him?, then you should expect the same of him.
2007-02-20 07:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if he lies to his girl what makes you think he isn't lieing to you?
2007-02-20 07:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋