hello i met a man 4 weeks ago off a dating site he lives 100 miles away from me i really like him ive met him twice he is always busy so can only meet a weekends he told me he has debts due to his ex wife declaring herself bankrupt he has her debt of 13k he has aked me if i will lend him the cash im in a dilemma i really fancy him he seems genuine but im not sure he says he had tried all the usual people but been turned down i feel like he hasd put me on the spot all i have is his promise he wil pay it back he wants it this weekend what shall i do? How do i knw if he s genuine or a comnan?
2007-02-19 22:51:24 · 10 answers · asked by wendy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
following bit written by lucy
dont do it. you dont know him well enough and we hear everyday about people that lose money. trust me dont do it. is he really worth that and you know he could be lying about his ex wife . perhaps he doesnt have a wife alll you have is his word and nothing else.and is it really worth giving the money to hiim if you have only seen him twice and only on the weekend.
the following is written by justin - morderwarg
if you absolutely must lend him the money make him sign a contract/payment agreement and make sure you see/get a photocopy of his driving license/other forms of ID -(make sure you photocopy/record details as it is his identification and thus could easily fake it) - do you know where he lives? - make sure you know where he lives.
remember if you have never met any of his friends - your most likely not his "girlfriend" - additionally do you know his mobile number/licence plate number - much easier to identify him.
get proof that you have lent him the money (audio recording device?)
take no chances this is too quick and too suspicious
2007-02-19 23:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE do not lend him money. People get cheated out of money all the time this way. Odds are heavily stacked against you. 999,999 times out of 1,000,000 this will be a con man.
But, here are some suggestions to go about this the RIGHT way if you ever want to.
#1, get a background check done. Not very romantic, I know, but nevertheless useful when someone asks for money so fast. Most of the time, people who take this tactic have a history of doing it. He may have already gotten in trouble for it.
#2, ask to see proof that he really is in debt. I'm sure you can figure out a subtle way of doing this so as not to offend him too deeply. Still, be wary, because a person could legitimately be in debt and still scam you.
#3, refuse, and see what happens. Honestly, if you two have some kind of magic, he won't hold it against you. And if he's the kind of guy who's going to leave you because you won't lend him 13K, then he's not worth your affection anyway.
#4, lie (or be honest) and say you don't have the money. See what happens, as above.
2007-02-19 23:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by wa-webguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve known this guy for 4 weeks and he's asking you for money already, and such a large amount, that stinks of con artist, get rid of him if you loan it youll never see it again, so if you wanna loose a lot of money go right ahead, There are better men out there, I say hes got big b**lls, asking you for that,
2007-02-19 22:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy, he is playing you like a fiddle. if he hasnt got any damn money why would you want him in the first place. you want someone you have to keep up. id tell him to take a hike. you do it this time next week it will be something else. he is an online scammer player whatever you want to call them. i have another word for him but i do not want to get wrote up for it.
2007-02-19 22:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by duc602 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only met the guy twice.
HELLO
NO WAY do you give him money, no way.
If she filed bankrupcy, her debt was erased, not given to him.
If you have to ask this question, you know the answer is you don't give him money already.
PLEASE don't be dumb, you don't really know this guy at all.
You give him any money, I GUARANTEE you will never hear from him again.
2007-02-19 22:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has only known you for a month and asking for $$$$ ??
I would suggest to you to keep your eyes open and your purse CLOSED! Don't do it hun!
Good luck to you. :)
2007-02-19 23:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. time gives the answer
2007-02-19 22:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it, run the other way
2007-02-19 23:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u stupid? in that case yes, land him the money. also do not ask them back
2007-02-19 23:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋