my 2 children have a terrible behaviour : claire (11) and nicolas (9) ; only the threat of a bare butt spanking keep them quiet , but I dislike this punishment ; anyway it works , do you consider I should stop to punish them this way ? or at least should I avoid to pulll the pants down? or at least I should avoid frontal nudity? thanks for your advice
2007-02-19 22:48:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have always said, if a spanking has been earned, make it a memorable one. Yes, your not spanking the pants, your spanking the bottom, so take them down. If you spank correctly, the last thing on their mind will be that "their bottom is exposed". I stopped getting spankings around 11, however i did get one last one at 14, from my dad, and I still to this day remember worrying about my tush, and not the fact that it was bared. Now if this happened in lets say the family room with a big audience, ya I most likely would be humiliated. Being that it was in privet, it made me focus more on why i was being spanked (which is kind of the point)
Do them in privet, never in front of others, and never be out of control. Always explain what they are getting it for.
2007-02-20 01:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 10⤊ 6⤋
No even for teens spanking bare is effective. It is exposed to be punishment right not something they enjoy.well embarrassment is part of punishment but you do have to make it hurt if hand spanking doesn't hurt enough up it.
2015-07-25 01:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think 11 and 9 are too big for spanking. To get a message across to a kid that big, you'd have to hit pretty hard, otherwise they would just roll their eyes at you. And with a bare butt you have the risk of leaving marks. They're just too old to pull down their pants to spank their butts!
They are old enough to have their favorite toys/games/TV shows/friends or whatever. Take the fun stuff away. Don't let them do anything fun whatsoever. It's called grounding and is more effective on older kids.
2007-02-19 22:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 4⤊ 8⤋
NO Do not stop punishing this way. It works. I started spanking at a much younger age, however. Spanking on the diaper is great. The noise adds an amount of surprise and noise so it adds to the effect. But at this age, I would say do which seems to have the most effect. I also made a paddle for the top of the refrig. Just the threat of that paddle did wonders. I did have to use it a couple of times (and I am sure it hurt me just as much as it did them because I would cry afterwards--lol) but it does work. Just my experiences.
2007-02-19 23:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 7⤊ 9⤋
A little spank on the butt may have worked when they were younger, but they are almost preteens and spanking may not work anymore. They are old enough to understand consequences if they continue to act out. Take away TV/game time, talking on phone -- whatever they like for a certain period of time. Maybe going to their room and let them think about what they did and then both of you sit down, and discuss what happen and demand an apology.
There is no right/wrong way -- you have to see what works for your children, but hitting usually just makes your blood pressure go up and can be harmful mentally in the long run.
2007-02-19 23:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by JusMe 5 · 4⤊ 10⤋
Well the 11 year old is getting to old for bare butt spanking and the 9 year old is soon to follow. I suggest you find other ways of disciplining your children. Physical punishment is not now a days considered good for children and in some places against the law. Other disciplines should be used. I think you need to study up on the matter and find other ways to teach your children good behavior.
2007-02-19 23:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 5⤊ 10⤋
In front of each other bare butt is going to add humiliation and make them not want it more than they do not want it now.
2007-02-20 01:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 4⤋
9 & 11 are way too old to be given bare butt spankings, they are old enough that they should have complete privacy, you should not be pulling down their pants being exposed to their front or back side. I find it very distirbing that you do that to children of this age, I don't agree w/ bare butt spankings at all, but especially not in older children, that's odd. You must not have control of your children, you need to find other ways to get a good reaction from them, try to be positive, try to reward them for good behavior, & take away something they like for bad behavior (such as a game, toy, tv/computer priviledge). As a punishment you could ground them for a week from playing with friends or send them to their room. If you are going to spank, don't pull the pants down.
2007-02-19 23:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by tanner 7 · 6⤊ 10⤋
I've never done it. Only with clothing on and only had to a few times when they were small. The threat worked after that.
2007-02-19 22:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by MissJessica 3 · 4⤊ 5⤋
OK this is a hard one due to the age of children i think smacking them is not a solution what i did with mine and mine were all girls i thought what would they hate? after a long time i decided to take there bedroom doors off so they had no privacy omg you would have thought i had taken them to mars and back lol but it worked now they do it to there children as the children are old enough to know what is in store if they misbehave i wish you luck but we all go thou this lol hope this helps
2007-02-19 23:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by one2treasure2 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋