We came together many years after failed bad relationships where our ex partners left us. We have had a great year together sharing, caring and I thought loving, but she now says she doesn't know if she ever loved me at all or was just in love with the idea of someone loving her again and got carried away with the good times. She feels that that the spark is not there and wants to be fair to me because she cares too much. My friends say how lucky I am to have someone who cares so much but I feel empty, lost and alone because she was my soul mate and yes, I still love her. Please can anyone offer me advice on how to move on, because all I seem to do is try to think about how I could get her back and live in a one sided relationship. I know I would be wrong but it hurts so bad.
2007-02-19 22:47:44 · 11 answers · asked by d2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't waste another minute hurting yourself! That was a brave thing she did letting you know now! If the spark isn't there it's not gonna happen! Ever! I know, I too spent 3 years in love only to be dumped, I carried the torch for over 35 years even now after his death. Don't hurt yourself anymore, make yourself move on and there will be better days to come I promise, just be grateful for the time you had and cherish it always b/c you will never forget! At best maybe you can have a best friend out of it, you know what I mean, keep the phone lines open b/c it's nice to be able to talk to someone who knows you inside and out! And friends are better that pains anytime!
2007-02-19 23:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by unohu54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's got into the whole rebound relationship thing, it's good to have someone there after bad times, but sometimes when the pain over an ex has gone so do the feelings for the current partner.
Is a cop out i know but pain does disapear after a while, the scares may stay but slowly over time they will fade.
Be happy, even though you think it's impossible at the moment, that's what you deserve
2007-02-19 22:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was using you to get over her lost lover and it often does not last.So move on but dont find a new girl immediately as you will later on find out that you were also using her to get over your pain.So first just have friends that you hang around with but nothing serious until you feel you have less feeling for her then you can have someone special.
2007-02-19 23:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about what has happened to you. Unfortunately, all of us who have lived long enough have experienced similar situations. When it happened to me, I felt the same as you, but my faith in God , that He always makes things turn out ok somehow, kept me at peace, and I was able to move on to other rewarding relationships since then.
2007-02-19 22:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get back with her.it is just talk by her saying that there is no spark.when you felt the spark, she definately did to. Tell her anything you have been thinking, tell her how you feel and how you miss her.And then give her an ultimatum to get back.Like two weeks after which she is not allowed to come any close to you...you have any means to get her back
2007-02-19 22:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you will find someone that will treat you good,,we all have to go through these things in life to make us strong and be a better person
2007-02-19 22:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go and move on... It takes two to Tango.
Some say, it needs two hands to clap! got the point?
2007-02-19 22:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by exo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't hurt, for something that never was. Move on, Coach! Happiness, awaits!
2007-02-19 22:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just show ur true love forever.......if she was ur good friend try asking politely why she doesnt love u....
2007-02-19 22:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rick Rejeleene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. let her go u find an another one
2007-02-19 22:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋