my boyfriend is asking me for sex but am a virgin and not ready for sex but i dont want to loose him.?

Question

i am confused that he might break-up wit me after getting wat he wants.

Answer 1

If you have sex with him you'll feel alot worse than if he brakes up with you,don't do something you'll regret and I know from experience that you will regret it for the rest of your life.We are made in God's image and God needs a commitment before He let's you know Him in an intimate way,that's why you should wait for marriage.I know the world today acts like sex is no big deal but it is a very big deal,it's suppose to be spiritual and when you have God's blessing it will be,other wise it will just be something dirty and you will feel so dirty in your spirit.You are valuable don't let anybody use you,you don't have to prove anything to anybody and if you ask Jesus to come live in your heart you will have His power to say no to temptation.

Answer 2

Take it from a former teenaged girl, now in her thirties, who helped raise three younger sisters:

If you told him how you feel and he is still pressuring you, then you will lose him either way. It will hurt for a while, as these things do, but time heals.

I presume that you are in your teens, so trust me when I tell you that in high school, matters of this type are the nature of the beast. This might not be the last time you'll experience this with a guy - so now is the a great time for you to draw a line in the sand for yourself.

This is a lose-lose: if you have sex with your boyfriend, you will be trading in one problem (having sex when you specifically stated that you are not ready) for a whole new set of problems (STD/pregnancy, birth control, and a reputation once he spreads the word - and in high school, word always get around). And, as you stated, he might break up with you after all.

If you don't have sex with him, then he will either stay and be resentful, leave, or stay and cheat on you with someone who will. Of course, there is the rare chance that he might be a gentleman about it and agree to wait. But you would be taking a big risk.

Don't compromise your needs just so that he can get what he wants. Good luck!

Answer 3

Sit down and talk to him about it . Talk about how you feel towards him but you are not ready. If he keeps pressuring then to be honest you'd be better off loosing him because you want someone who respects your wishes especially with a thing like this. You really should stick to your values and stay a virgin until you are ready . You are stronger than a lot of people by sticking out don't loose that on him if he doesn't respect you.

Answer 4

i am male.
he will try and try and try.
explain you are not ready, if he respects this and stops asking then wait, if he comes out with some stupid idiotic reason why you really should have sex, tell him to get on his bike.
nobody should feel pressure to do something they are not ready for or do not want to do.
if he knows you have not had sex before this could be his only reason for so much pressure, a lot of blokes like to be 'first'.....then they lose interest as you are not a virgin anymore and they can boast that they were first.
i admire the fact that you have kept him at arms reach, to me this proves you already realise it would be a mistake.

Answer 5

chicken, I have been through the same but I made the mistake. He was only after one thing. If this boy repects you he will wait until your ready. My boyfriend now waited 6 months until I was ready because I didnt want to make the same mistake again. My ex used me and it hurt. Dont go through the same. Speak to him, If you lose him because he wouldnt wait then this is not true love. You will find someone that loves you and will wait. Sex is not every thing to a relationship and when you do finally do it, it should be specail and with the one you love. If he is prepared to wait then he is a gentleman

Answer 6

I'm afraid that it's a catch 22 situation. If you don't sleep with him he will dump you, if you sleep with him he WILL DUMP YOU. You have to decide what's better for you in the end. My advice is NO! Wait for a boy who makes you feel safe, secure and wanted for who you are and beacsue he really loves you. Do not give yourself to someone who pressures you and makes you feel inadequate. Once you have given your virginity it's gone! It is such a precious thing, keep it well until you feel the time is right. There is also so much else to think of too like pregnancy, diseases, your parents, reputation...
Be strong and stand your ground.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Kick him to the curb, don't given into him at all. Save yourself for the right man that you will soon find and spend the rest of your life with. This guy you are with now, soon as he gets some he'll be looking for some other girl to get some and forget about you totally.
this is what younger guys do, threaten to break up if they don't get it from a girl. Don't be stupid, don't give it to him stay a virgin until you meet mr. right.

Answer 8

You should not sleep with someone just to keep them. If he doesn't want to stay with you because you won't sleep with him chances are he will be gone after he gets it. Hold to your values, don't let him compromise who you are. If he leaves you it is probably for the better. Find a boy who understand you, preferably a virgin too, male virgins do exist so Ive been told.

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 9

never sleep with a guy until you're ready and dont be afraid of losing him because of your self respect. Letting him control you isnt worth it. Its your body, not his (remember that). If he does break up with you because you're not going to sleep with him, he's doing you a huge favor. It'll be a sign of him as a loser, and better soon than later for those kind of affairs to end.

A worthwhile boyfriend would never make you feel that you should have sex with him.

Answer 10

He will break up with you regardless. If you stand by your decision and say NO, he will dump you for someone easier to get into bed with. And if you give in and give him what he wants, he will dump you and move on to someone new. Either way he will not be in your life for much longer. The only difference is, you get to decide whether or not you will do something you will regret.