me and my gf split up kind of we are on a break she has gone away for a week and we both agreed to talk when she got back.
but im not sure the possablilltys dont lok good no matter wot happens because i was joining the army and she begged me not to go and stay for her (i was top of my class ), so i did but i dont think it was worth it now we had a great time and we both started to fall for each other, but how can she love me if she asked me to give up the life my body was made for just for her i would of done it anyway but she should not have asked im not sure if i shud take her back but i do like her alot ........confused big time
btw the army will not change me or break me im too stong in will and heart for that to happen not even my ex sgt said it would.
and it feel she hasnt given up anything but i gave up my life the army is the only place other than her where i have been accepted as i am
2007-02-19 22:24:54 · 8 answers · asked by kezz247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she loved and cared for you as much as she claims to, she wouldnt ask you to give up on your dreams. There are plenty more girls out there, ones who will accept you for who you are. Its is not fair for her to tell you not to join the army if thats what you want to do, if I were you i would carry on with the life you want to lead. Find a girl who loves and respects you for who you are, and the rest will come with time.
Good luck
2007-02-19 22:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by joiyuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask what the issue is here? Is she worried that in the army you could wind up dead? Is she worried you will not achieve your potential in the army? Or does she simply worry that you will go off with someone else ? You need to talk to her why the army is important to you and what you both want in life for the future.
If you are top of your class are you sure that you entering the army at the right level? Could you be officer material?
The soldiers I know have strong women behind them, to help the guys do a difficult and dangerous job and need to be 100% sure of the love and support they have back home.Is she willing to support you like that?
On the other hand are you willing to be faithful to her in the separations you will have in an army career? She will need total reassurance that you are there for her 100% too.
If you really love someone then you want them to achieve their dreams even if it makes you unhappy in the short term, for example by being separated from them. It's not just your dreams you need to consider, what are hers? How can you support her to achieve them?
Good luck
2007-02-19 22:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dancemomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're blaming her for making you choose. You say you would've given it up for her anyway but she gave you the ultimatum & you're now making her feel bad by saying she made you give up that life. Sounds like it was you that made that choice, no gun to your head etc. Either accept you chose her & make her feel like the most special girl in the world (which you obviously think she is) or end it & try your hand @ Army life & see if they'll give you the chance to excell.
2007-02-19 22:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kezz
It sounds to me like the two of you just love the idea of having each other close you dont really love each other. Dont worry to much, she has time now to think so just relax when she comes back sit down and talk to her the best way to sort a problem out is sometimes just to talk.
Hope it works out.
2007-02-19 23:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jacques G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart desires and join the army - I am a firm believer in if it is meant to happen it will and if she is the one then who knows what the future holds. You will always resent her if you don't do what your heart desires. My brother joined the army in 1989 and he said it was the best thing he ever did - good luck in whatever you decide
2007-02-19 22:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do what you want to do, if joining the army is your dream then you have to do it, if you dont you will regret it, and deep down you know you will always blame her, if she loves you she should only want what makes you happy, remember if you love someone set them free if they come back to you they yours , if they dont they never was, and life is to short, it could be a good test of your love for each other, x
2007-02-19 22:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence but it is up to you what you do dont throw your life away because some girl wants to be with you this is your life you will still see her this is your life dont waste it
2007-02-19 22:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by χχ-яσ¢н3ιιχχ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how stupid it is to give up your life's dream for a bit of booty?
2007-02-19 22:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋