How do I get my partner to stop talking non stop?

Answer 1

This is not a simple question with a single good solution. I would consider all the ideas listed here. Try the most appealing one at a time until you find one that works well.
Then try others. The idea is have as many techniques as possible, that way you partner will never know exactly what you will do. The element of surprise!

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 2

You asked the question; I'm presuming you seriously wanted an answer.

I think people who develop this "problem" are basically attention-deprived -

somewhere, repeatedly, and by people significant in their lives; therefore, they cultivate the need to squeeze in everything at once, because they feel they may not get the opportunity again. They are not TRYING to put you off. Understand that this talent was honed, usually over time, and habitual exposure to varying forms of neglect has convinced them that this is their way of adapting or compensating.

Let's talk about you.....What are your LISTENING habits? Can you recall what has been said? Ever thought about getting to the root of the "problem", at what lies beneath this habit? Maybe the problem isn't them; and possibly (probably), you're actually exascerbating it by your indifference. I think your question is probably a hypothetical one...no one here is going to tell you anything you couldn't have figured out on your own- it's just a matter of whether you really wanted to..or no.

My recommendation, for what it's worth is this:

You first need to decide whether this person means anything to you. That will determine whether or not what they have to say bears any importance.
If not, you need to separate now, but at least, try to one last time show a little sensitivity and diplomacy, at the same time, being honest about your intolerance. It will be good practice for when you meet someone you do care about who doesn't care as much about you.

If you have determined that this is a relationship worth salvaging, why don't you just sit down, talk things over, and get to really know them? I suspect you don't really know them, or else the fact that they like talking to YOU wouldn't be thought of as such an assault!
They don't have a CLUE that you feel this way, do they? Sounds like nobody's hearing nobody to me.

Dedicate time- don't be critical, ask leading questions, remembering to redirect the subject if it strays off course. AND REALLY LISTEN. You will find you're suddenly having what's called a CON-VER-SA-TION. I think you'll be surprized at what you've been missing. The person may relax, maybe feel secure enough with you to say only what they really want to say, and maybe it'll bring you closer and into a relationship with a little more substance. Even if you only intend to end up as friends, you can never have too many friends. You won't even be able to maintain one of those if you don't develop some good observation and intuitive skills, not to mention a little empathy and patience.
I noticed you said nothing about being lied to, or abused, robbed, or cheated on.
One sure sign of a readiness to maintain mature relationships of every kind is learning to choose your battles.

See, I told you that you knew the answer already... My question to you is what are YOU afraid of

Answer 3

Heavens above don't put me in the same room as him, I have the same problem Even typing, I get carried away on Answers sometime. My partner thinks I am a pain in the arrrrsh, but he never speaks !!! Mind you it comes in handy when I have to dig him out of an awkward situation. So try listening above all and talking to the poor soul. H is probably a verry happy chappy but irritating like me.

Answer 4

Try to mold yourself in the following manner:
1. Practice hard to bear with it. It will take time, but it is achievable.
2. Pose that you are listening, which is not actually true.
3. Never interject, question or oppose. Your body language will be such that you are in agreement with your partner.
4. Allow the monologue to continue.
5. See the result.
6. Actually, this is psychic disorder. It requires consultation with doctor. But this can't be achieved.

Answer 5

Maybe you should not try hinting he/she can't get the message you are trying to stop him from talking. So i think you would give him a firm attitude about what you are discontent about but do not try to scold him or that sort.. As you mentioned.. he/she is your partner so you 2 have to work together right? so you must tell him/her no hard feeling on it.. Just spell out how you felt when he/she been talking non-stop..

This is juz my personal humble view
Astray

Answer 6

Perhaps you can't get them to stop talking,but....You can develop the ancient art of selective deafness,with careful training you only hear the parts you want to hear.I have taken this to the next level to a point now of being able to answer with almost 100% accuracy various stock phrases that I have stored in my sub conscious....Hope this helps.

Answer 7

1) Roll up a pair of socks.
2) Insert into the offending orifice.
3) Seal over with mastic / duck tape
Jobs a goodun!

Answer 8

You probably can't learn to filter them out. Unfortunately you might miss important information but if you politely explain that you are incapable of listening all the time so if the information is important they need to be sure they have you attention, then the message may get through.

Answer 9

This is funny My first husband never talked and my husband now talks all he time. Sometimes I just have to say "Let's be quiet for awhile" but then I have to say that to him as well as our granddaughter who lives with us. I have been known to raise my hand so I could get a word in but I wouldn't give niether of them up for the world That's just his personality

Answer 10

Bi-Polar (manic-depressive)? I have a family member like that!! You can't except to tell her-him "you talk too much." I see this in people. The inability to have a conversation, only monologues and they are so boring!!
good luck...oh, you could wear earplugs.lol...