I started a cosmetology school a month in a half ago. I met a guy two weeks ago that goes to the University across the street. We have been talking every day he makes it a point to meet me on my lunch break. I only get 45 min so we usually just walk or sit on the benches in front of my school and talk.
He is really attractive, seems nice and has a good head on his shoulders!!!............ I recently broke up with someone I was ina 4 year abusive ldr relationship with. & then had a humilating situation w/ another guy. So im a little scared right know. He gave me a belated V-day card and in the card he asked me out to dinner. And told me I should smile more it's very becoming to me. I told him no because I didnt have a sitter. He told me the invitation was for the both of us...........Friday he asked me for my number, I lied and told him I didnt have phone yet. I do, but I always get hurt by guys. I'm curious about him but at the same time he scares me....why is this?
2007-02-19 21:18:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After this he got upset w/ me and said....... if he was a dog like the men. I've been w/ in the past I would have been all over him. He also one of the girls in my class why am i so guarded.< i have never had a healthy relationship ever & i always feel im gonna get hurt. so i usually take the role of a guy sleep w/ them right away. & get rid of them before they do me.......i do this so i wont get attached...............Advice needed dont be sarcatic or rude!!!
2007-02-19 21:24:53 · update #1
he seems, like a good guy, maybe you should get over the past and dont screw up your future.....dont make me PREY on your insecuritites
2007-02-19 21:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by b4i_fku-r-u-18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does HE scare you-his attitude and behaviour etc or is it the situation that scares you maybe-your feelings and the memory of some bad relationships?If it's the first I would say stay friends but if not then I would say go for the dinner with him.If you feel you can trust him tell him some of what has happened in your past and while you like him you are still not ready for a proper relationship, if he's a good guy he will understand.He obviously really likes you if he comes to see you every day so why not give it a try, if things don't work out atleast you know you gave it a try and if they do then you may have found the right man for you!Good luck
2007-02-20 05:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by maidmagenta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to feel that way from having such a hurtful past. But you don't have to push yourself too hard though. And you don't have to give in right away to the guy you've been hanging out. If he really likes and understands you, then let him show it to you first. Let him prove himself. Take it slowly, and don't rush things. From the things you said about yourself like doing men first before braking up with them before they do it to you, I think the more you get yourself get used to it will make you hurt even more in the future. Sometimes, you have to slow the pace to get the big picture. You don't have to carry the weight of your past on your shoulders forever. Keep moving and don't stop looking for happiness. Just take it slow now.
2007-02-20 05:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts they are there for a reason. Maybe you just need friends at this point in your life as opposed to relationships.
2007-02-20 05:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try, you might like it!
2007-02-20 05:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋