what would u do to ur daughter if she told u about this?

Question

i am the daughter..
so her it goes..
this was after school.... me and my friend were the only people there..(hes a guy)
he dragged me to somewhere no one can see us
then he showed me his d*ck.... i was tempted to touch it ... and i did!!i feel so bad.. he touched me too.... i couldnt stop him....

he said that its our secret and if i told anyone, id be in trouble
i want to go to church and confess.... and should i tell my parents??

i need ur help...i feel really bad.

(im 13)

Answer 1

If you feel you did something wrong, then just ask God for forgiveness. I don't think you need to tell your parents unless he tries to force you into doing something. DO NOT BE AROUND THIS FRIEND AGAIN AND TELL HIM WHY.

You talked about going to church and confessing. If you are Catholic you can confess to your priest and he will not tell anyone either.

Answer 2

Yeah tell your parents or a teacher at school it sounds as if you were quite shocked about what happened and not ready for that stage of your life yet get some advice and stay well away from the boy stay in large crowds of people you trust and don't let him get you alone again.
Explain to your mum what happened she should be more concerned for your safety not to blown it out of context and pleased that you stopped and never took it further.Don't keep that kind of secret it will mess up your head and he was the one who said to keep it a secret and by telling you that you will get into trouble by telling he's also blackmailing you .For all you know he 's probably did this to other girls and they are afraid to talk up .

Hope you tell your parents and get this sorted out do it soon don't hold on to it.

Answer 3

Ok, first, did he really have to "drag" you to wherever this place was??
You said you wanted to touch it and you did.
Well, you see what that started.
I'm not saying you are at fault, bucause your too young to know any better and he was the one that took you off alone.
Did he just touch you? or did he rape you?
which is it?
Now that you have all this wonderful advice from all these other people seeing you as an innocent little child that goes off in private with a big mean guy and touches his privates, here's what I suggest.
You feel like you have sinned, ok, go to church and go to confession, confess.
The priest or minister can't tell anything you said, so that's cool.
If your afraid to tell your parents, then I suggest you take care of this guy yourself.
Tell him you want to be alone, and you want to touch it again.
When he shows you, and you go to touch it, grab ahold of his ball sack, squeeze really hard and twist it as hard as you can. Hold it there for a while, don't let go. When you are ready to let go.
Then you tell him if he ever threatens you or touches you again you will tear them off of him completely.
but let's not pretend you have a halo over your head, you did want to touch it in the first place.

Answer 4

You need to think about the respect for yourself. Number one it wasn't the best choice to have a "show n touch" at your school but that doesn't mean you should feel bad, it's only normal. However i don't think it's cool that he kind of threatened you about telling...i think you should feel your parents out, maybe they'll understand and think it was good for you to tell them, but they may also just get alarmed and concerned about you. I would talk w/ your priest and go to confessional for yourself and then decide if your parent's should know, only you can decide. But i would be wise about what and who you deal w/ at 13 and focus more on school and sports and friends, your young only for a short time. Take care and make GOOD decisions in life.

Answer 5

Okay you are 13, old enough to know right from wrong, you know what you did, so what is it you are looking for here, oh, your my daughter and you just told me this, well, again, my daughters at 13 knew enough to respect themselves and not to be lead into something they didn't want to do. The acts you speak of were consensual and you need to stop projecting the guilt here. How old was this boy, and was it just petting and have you done something like this before? Yes you should be in trouble, again, you are not a baby, I am sure you have seen the shows and even had sex ed in school, know that you are playing with fire, and no matter how it turns out, you will get burnt. Yes tell your parents and face the consequences and know that "he" will also be in trouble. Go to church and confess, but God knows and sees all, so don't sugar coat it like you did here. If you know how not to get involved like this again, then keep it to yourself, but you were tempted and you touched and was touched, so if you liked what was did to you in any way whatsoever, you will do it again. Respect yourself first because you have to live with your actions, please be careful.

Answer 6

I don't know what sort of relationship you have with your parents, most parents will freak and over-react. If your parents are cool, you could tell them. Be honest about your role.

You need to make it very, very clear to this boy that this is to never happen again. Even though you were curious, and even willing at the start, tell him never again and never let yourself get into that situation again.
Tell him that you have told someone what happened, but not yet told that person his name. Make it a person in a position of authority. (Do you have a school consellor ? You could actually talk to them in private.) Say the person wants to get the authorities involved, but you said no. Tell him you told the person if the boy ever tries to do anything again, you will tell his name to the person .

Don't feel too bad about what you did. It's natural to be curious and you are still learning about how to recognize a bad situation before it happens. Now you know. Don't ever be alone with this boy again, he cannot be trusted. He says he is your friend, but he is not.

Be prepared for this boy to pressure you into doing it again and going further. Tell him the person in authority told you that he would do this and that you are to go and see them straight away if it happened. Tell him he will be in trouble, not you.
He will try to bluff you with threats of telling everyone. He may actually tell people, that's something you will have to learn to live with. If you give in to his threats you will feel much worse afterwards. Be brave.

If worse comes to worse, tell everyone it was tiny.

Answer 7

Well, if I was your parent, I'd want to know how old he is and why he asked you to do that. It's understandable that once you're a teen you're curious about that stuff. Did he ask to touch you before he did? If he didn't then there's a big problem and I'd be pissed. If this was just some innocent curious thing that you both did cause you're friends and who else better to do it with first than a friend, then I'd understand but I'd also want to talk to you about a whole lot of things. But if this was something he forced you to do or didn't have permission from you to do, then I'd be pissed and want to talk to his parents and maybe the police.

Answer 8

First, he has to comprehend that you're searching for love and for this reason sex is yet another dirivitave of love. Did you tell the daddy of your infant? Please pricey Lord tell me you understand who the child's daddy is. Do tell your brother in tears as you sit down him down. he will possibly do a touch freaking out, yet he ought to nonetheless be brotherly to you. Do see a church pastor about this too. He can do a lot to counsel you and help you through this hard time. keep in suggestions, Mary grow to be pregnant out of wedlock too! that is not any longer the top of the international, basically the top of your teens. sex is an grownup act, now you get to truly be the grownup. Time to augment up and make some more beneficial extreme descisions. would I say to make certain on existence ideas over abortion...for years later you'd be pained questioning "what would that child be like had I allowed him/her to stay?" Adoption is a gorgeous decision!

Answer 9

Avoid this guy at all costs. He has threatened you so he is NOT your friend. I wouldn't do this again, for now anyway, you're too young. I wouldn't tell my parents either, you seem like a good girl, so learn from your mistake. Be careful next time and try not to be alone with anyone again.

Answer 10

Thats actually sexual assault. Tell your parents as this perv may do it to someone else - or someone even younger. Dont feel bad sweety, this is a situation that needs further investagation or at least reporting. All the best, and take care.