I'm getting married in June and want to invite some of my work colleagues. My office manager made some nasty accusations about me. If I don't invite her, I feel that she will make my life uncomfortable as she will feel left out. But I don't want her there.
The reason I don't like her is that another colleague complained about my standard of work (partially justified, this colleague didn't tell me there was a problem with my work, just went straight to the top to complain). Anyway, my office manager was less than supportive and made some claims against my work of her own (which were untrue) to her line manager. she's been nice to me since, but I don't trust her. Should I invite her to keep the peace?
2007-02-19 20:46:17 · 20 answers · asked by kittycat123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is your special date that you can never replace and you should not have to; however, if you invite any of your collegues at work, you will have to invite her to "keep the peace" if you are planning on staying there long term.
Only way around it is to only invite "close personal friends", which one or two may be collegues, and just say due to budget reasons that you cannot invite any one esle to the wedding, but as a gesture to include everyone will bring in a cake or party tray of meats and cheese AFTER you come back from your honeymoon for all of your co-workers to help you celebrate your union.
2007-02-19 20:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is rough one. You should have who you want at your wedding. What about the size of your wedding and your office? If you don't have too many people in your office and are having a larger wedding, you may consider putting up a general invitation and then giving the few people you really want there a personal invitation.
If you have talked a lot about your wedding at work, everyone might expect to be invited. If you put up a general invitation she may not even go. If you give her a person invite, she will probably feel she needs to go.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-19 21:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure... but I can share some perspective that may be helpful.
In short, sometimes the best way to keep the peace is to let it be known where people stand with you.
Your wedding day will be one of the best days of your life, so you owe it to yourself to not compromise it in anyway.
When I got married, both my wife and I were heavily career oriented, and had a lot of workplace colleagues; some we liked, some we didnt and others that were just kinda inbetween and had to make similar decisions about who to invite, and who to not.
We decided that since our wedding day is one of those days that you will remember for the rest of your life and it is about as close to a perfect day as it gets, we only wanted to share it with people we really cared about.
Those in our workplaces who were not true friends were not invited. When asked beforehand and afterwords, we just said that we wanted to keep the event intimate and limited to family and friends.
There's always going to be people you have to invite that you dont want there, friends of parents, odd-ball, etc., but you should by no means invite people you dont trust...unless you want to :)
2007-02-19 20:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by -=B=- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since its your wedding,stop worrying about the people you hate and try to think of the day you will say "i do" with the one you love. and try to make peace with your office manager. making peace helps with developing a good conscience. try to follow what you feel; if you wanna invite him/her or not, because you dont know what will happen if you invite or not invite him/her.
or maybe just try to straighten things out to him/her and tell him/her that you want peace between you and him/her.and if you made peace,invite her.if not,well just follow how you feel.
2007-02-19 21:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by mcrgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for a good gesture you should invite her its up to her to come or not.if she did not come to your wedding.it will be the talk of the office how good it was and most of your workmate will appreciate that they were part of your bigday.if she did not come then its not your problem anymore.because you are being friendly with the *****.if she come at all then maybe she will stop annoying when you at work.goodluck on your bigday.have a lots of babies so you can have a maternity leave so you dont have to see the bicth for awhile.
2007-02-19 21:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not invite any co-workers. Just tell them that it is a family affair only. That way she does not feel left out and your wedding will not be ruined.
2007-02-19 21:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Climbing the ladder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!
It is YOUR wedding, your day to shine and be happy. You decide whom YOU want to be there. Don't invite anyone you are not completely happy with. If she asks why you didn't invite her, tell her it is only for close friends and family. If she's mature, she'll understand.
2007-02-19 22:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I really don't get these questions.
If you do not want to invite someone to YOUR wedding, then don't!
If they don't like it, too bad! If it ends up going back on you somehow then report them to a higher up!
Don't invite anyone you DO NOT want to invite.
2007-02-20 00:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age old question, should i invite the people i dont want at my wedding to my wedding.......well, have pondered this question myself, my hubby and i decided not to. Its your day, its a beautiful special day. In my opinion dont spend it around unsupportive and manipulative people. Spend it with the people of whom you love and enjoy their company. Congradulations to the both of you, may your troubles be less, your blessings be more and nothing but happiness come through your door. *smiles*
2007-02-19 20:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by kelstar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is the first marriage of your life. Happy Wedding !This day will not come again in your life, so you should invite her to your marriage.
2007-02-19 20:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Malik 89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋