when she trows a tantrum now shell say Im stupid. ill respond with. no Ari your very smart shell say NO!!!! im stupid. then ill say well i think your smat, why would you say such a mean thing. then shell say because you tricked me. ill ask her, how did I trick you? then shell say because Im stupid and I hate you and daddy and Desiree and Chris and Justin (her siblings)
we have never once told her shes stupid, in fact I try and build up all my childrens self esteams. what would make her say this? has anyone else had simaler experiences with a child this age?
2007-02-19 20:38:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
yes and she is saying it to get your reaction and her way its a type of manipulation she is gilting you into giving her her own way
try saying " I'm sorry you feel that way but you have a right to your feeling then walk away and see how she reacts to that she may fallow you and try harder
she has found what works and now you have to stop it all kids try to push our buttons to get what they want
2007-02-19 21:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's heard the word somewhere and know its means something negative, also know that she has your attention when she says it. We have words in our house that are considered bad words, and even though our kids may hear these words in other houses, or on the playground they are forbid to use them in / out of our home.
Here's an example of words and what I say to encourage the kids.
Stupid - God doesn't make stupid.
Hate - You may not like, but hate is too strong
Freakin - Replacement word for (F**Kin) not allowed
Starving- you may be hungry but you will never know what starving means.
Good Luck with that one-
2007-02-19 21:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by sweathogwife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is part of her tantrum. Ignore this verbal part and treat tantrum with 3 minute time out if appropriate. Do not speak or engage in eye contact during this time. You must withdraw your energy from this situation instead of allowing her to draw you into her manipulations. You are in charge then and she will feel more secure.
2007-02-19 23:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have someone coming in to look after her while you are gone? A nanny or a babysitter could be planting those thoughts in her head. If not, it sounds like something she will grow out of. In the meantime continue to try to build up her self esteem by praising her for things she does.
2007-02-19 22:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋