How do I avoid a 14-year-old girl?

Question

I'm 23 (and, a girl myself!), and there is a party tonight for the two of us. The problem is she's my cousin and I'm the only she's going to know there. There will be people around my age and older at the party (it's kinda formal), but I'm going to feel tied down to this little 14-year-old girl. I could introduce her to the others, but she's the type to want me to talk to her only. I want to have fun, but how can I include her in it?
We're very close and she really looks up to me, but we're more like friends than cousins when we're alone. It's just that I enjoy acting goofy and 14 when I'm with her, but I want to be my real self at the party. Plus she and her mother love dressing up, and they always comment on my being underdressed. I dress to please myself, and a lot of people like the way I look, but it bothers me when I hear this from them, too. I love my aunt and cousin, but they can be kinda tiresome at times. Aaargh......

Am I being selfish? What can I do?

Answer 1

give her a lolly pop and walk away. when the street lights come on she will need to go home to bed so your free

Answer 2

No, you are not being selfish for wanting a birthday to yourself. You need to talk to your Aunt as soon as possible and convey this as is it HER responsibility, not yours, to come up with a fun birthday party for her 14 year old that involves friends her own age and not you.

Her mother was wrong for ever putting you in this position to start with and it is up to her to fix it! Good suggestions would be taking her to a local a mall that has free makeovers (best for the Aunt, her Mom to call the places in advance to set it up) with her daughter and a few of her close friends, or if nothing else, just the two of them, get made over, Mom springs for a makeup goody or two, take her out to eat and/or a movie..end of story!

If there is no way to get out of what has already been set up, keep it very brief (under an hour) meet, greet, cake, opening of presents, hug, then out of there to go somewhere else with your friends and don't allow you Aunt to rope you in to what is convenient for HER in the future, but what is truly best for her daughter.!

Answer 3

I'm turning 14 in a month, so I think I can help you out here. I think you should just tell her that you want to hang out with your friends today, and offer to hang out with her, and her only on a different day. take her somewhere special and buy her something, as a bribe. that'll probably work.
at the party, just introduce her to some people, and ask her mom to look after her for the rest of the time.

Answer 4

It's a party, and it's good for her to socialize and talk to people, even if they are older. Introduce her to friends, even though she may be shy. Speak for her, she may feel overwhelmed by not having any peers around. She doesn't have to say much, just keep her with you as you talk with your friends. But do make it a point to break away from them so that you can talk to her too.

Make time for both, your friends and your cousin.

Answer 5

if you are comfortable with the people you know there, it shouldn't be a problem. but if you are trying to prove yourself or something like that of course its not gonna work.

because i remember when i was younger i went to a party with my older cousin and he knew everyone there so well and eveyrone just got along. it was cool even though i only got to stay til 10 and it lasted til 6.

so i'd say just let her stay there until she has to go and then you'll have the rest of the night.

Answer 6

Don't avoid/ignore her, if you do so then you'll end up hurting her feelings. Take her to the party, since it's a formal one you might end up getting bored, so she might be kinda helpful there