So I was trying to break up with my co-worker whome I dated for sometime.. who is a really good man... but I know that he wont make a good husband...
The man I met is great.. with a great mind just like I want.. but he asked me about my past.. and the men I have been with...
And i told him.. now he is saying that he is afraid that what I told him will build jeaulasy in his heart..
I am so confused..And tierd.. And I dont know what to do :(
2007-02-19 19:42:06 · 11 answers · asked by Life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rule number one. Do not date your co-worker. It will not only ruin your relationship, but also your work life. Rule number two. Do not tell anything about yourself both in the past and in the future, until your instinct tells you that he is the one, and he loves you. Rule number three, just in your case, dump him before he dumps you.
2007-02-19 19:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't accept you for who you are, then he might not be the best choice. Maybe try explaining it to him in a nice way. Tell him that the past is the past and it's not an indicator of who you are today. If he can't trust you now, he never will, and things will not work out. Tell him that he must trust you.
And don't let anyone judge you or make you feel bad. It's your life, learn it your own way :)
2007-02-19 19:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by fuumaxkamui69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never date a guy that would ask specifics about your past. My husband and I never talked about it other than asking: have you?
Also, maybe stop dating to find a husband and just date to find someone you like. It will happen when it happens. You can't force a marriage and they aren't everything anyway. There's other aspects of life that's important.
2007-02-19 19:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is ignore this guy and what he thinks about you! He has no right to judge you.
And although it's important to be honest in a relationship, you shouldn't feel like full disclosure is necessary. The next time a guy asks you that, just say "not as many as you..." and wink
2007-02-19 19:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by hannahbean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him is it really what you told him, or is he making up excuses to break thing off with you, because he is scared,that you might find someone else and do him the same way you did the other guy, when you met him.
2007-02-19 19:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you were saying the truth about your past, and u have to be proud that u didn't hide anything, so give him his time to think about everything and then try to discuss the points which make him afraid or worried... and Good Luck
2007-02-19 20:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you won't cheat on him or give him any reason to be jealous there won't be a problem. If however he is jealous no matter what and accuses you or this, then perhaps it is time to move on.
2007-02-19 19:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if he asked and you answered honestly then his jealously is his problem. Don't stress about it. You're not being unfaithful and what happened in your past is, essentially your business.
2007-02-19 19:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats unfair of him to ask and then say he's jealous, it happened in your past and has nothing to do with him. if he cant deal with that, how is hea going to deal with things when they come up between you two?
2007-02-19 19:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget this new guy, if he can't accept your past, you won't have any future with him. your past will destroy your relationship with him because of his jealousy. if he really loves you, he will accept you no matter what happened in the past.
2007-02-19 19:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋