My Boyfriend is a good person he has NEVER done drugs, smoked, had sex, gotten drunk,etc. He had some problems in high school and he missed a lot because he has Body Dismorphic Disorder and going to school for him was very hard ...eventually he left school and now he has a job and does very well for a teen. His mom's HORRIBLE. If he gets a bloody nose he has to hide his tissues cuz she accuses him of having a crack addiction (what her psychics told her). She tells him that she is embarassed to be seen in public with him because he is hideous. He has been working out and lost like 20 lbs of fat he weighs 145 now, but she tells him he's annhorexic and his butt fell off. She tells him that he is going to Hell. He can't see his cousins cuz she think they will turn him Homosexual, although they themselves are not (psychics again). She always tells him he's ugly...now he is so scared to even look in a mirror!What can i do???She's DESTROYING HIM! Every chance she gets she tears him down...
2007-02-19 19:37:15 · 10 answers · asked by 1.2..3...Boo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His mother does not really understand english very well...and i do not know spanish well enough to really have a deep conversation with her. She has always told him that no one could ever love him, so he feels sooo uncomfortable hearing those words. He can't even really say them without it sounding like he is being sarcastic, even though he means to sound sincere...so we never say it. She has told him that she will just go leave him so that he can live his disgusting life, and she'll never have to know. She was not abused or anything by his dad, although divorced the dad pays for absolutely everything of the familys.
2007-02-19 19:54:30 · update #1
He is 17 and she refuses to speak to a psychaiatrist cuz she thinks that they will just report all of what she tells them to the gov't...she thinks her neighbors spy on them...she's beyond paranoid! He is scared to go live with his dad cuz she said that if he ever did that she would just kill herself...I just don't know what to do. I mean what do you do when the person that helps everyone else, can't help themselves...I love him, and i don't know what to do.
2007-02-21 10:10:39 · update #2
You don't say how old he is...if he is old enough to be on his own he needs to move out and severe ties with the toxic woman unless she goes to a doctor and gets help and he needs to get counseling to help him overcome all the damage she has done.
If he is not old enough to live on his own, could he perhaps move in with is father?
His mother could have a chemical imbalance that makes her the way she is, in which case medications might help. If it turns out that is not the problem then her motives may be much darker; directing all her anger at him for everything that has gone wrong in her life and insults him and keeps him down to make him think he is worthless and so he will never leave her.
Either way, best thing he can to is get away from her and tell her he is going to stay away until she gets the helps she needs.
If he balks "she needs him" make him aware he cannot begin to help her overcome whatever demons are plaguing her until he takes care of himself first and becomes a happy, stable human being.
2007-02-20 11:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear, well all you need to do is talk to him and make him realise how wonderful he is and how sweet and caring he is and if you love him for the rest of his life then he can come to know that his mother just means bad for him.
His mom is definitly mean and nasty but because of some insecurity she is after him. Find out what it is that ticks her on and off and then maybe try meeting with her. Find out what she hates and why she hates them. Is it her husband who abused her?
This can be sometimes a deep phenomenon and people here on yahoo cannot answer since this can be a psychological reason so either this guy meets a doctor who can speak to him and councel him or the mother goes in for some check.
Just talk to your bf and make a diff by trying to help him in this awful situation. If you ofcourse love him for life.
2007-02-19 19:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear I never suggest any1 to leave there parents in any case. But 4 your situation I just wanted to say that Ask n make him ready to live without her mother. She is torturing him n becoz of it he is going in depression. Once person gone in complete depression then it is very difficult to bring him/her in normal state. It seems that U love him very much. Try to be in touch n close with him as possible as U can. But try to talk to her mother. I know she can't understand English so if U can then try to learn Spanish. May be she have her insecurities or some reason behind her behavior. If possible then take her n your boyfriend to Psychiatrist. N yes make him also ready to complete his high school n make him at least to do graduation. So he can get much better Job. You are the only person in his life who can make bring his life from darkness to light. Good Luck Dear.
2007-02-19 20:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, can I ask if your bf is having treatment for his disorder, such as counselling? Secondly, do you know if his mum suffers from any kind of mental disorder that would cause her to treat her son this way? It is not normal behaviour and would actually be considered verbal abuse. Your bf should not tolerate her behaviour any longer and needs to tell a professional about the situation, such as a doctor or therapist (if he has one).
Just continue to be as supportive and caring of your bf as possible and remind him that it is his mother with the problem and that none of this is his fault.
Take care : )
2007-02-20 18:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell him that his mother is wrong and she is very disturbed. Is there any way that he can contact his dad and let him know what he is going through. Perhaps his dad could help until your boyfriend can get out of his mother's house and get his own place.
He is very lucky to have a girlfriend like you.
2007-02-19 21:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who need that for a mother they are supposed to love and nurture you not put you down constantly , If he's working couldn't he make his own way in life get a flat live on his own,get in touch with his father and get his help .
2007-02-19 22:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lock her in an asylum!
2007-02-19 20:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by jondavesnowy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to get him as far away from this old cow as possible!!!!
2007-02-19 19:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think he should stay away frok hismum...elope with him..
2007-02-19 19:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by HeaD_BanG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋