My friends father recently died. My friend is 19 years old, and I know her because her mom babysat me since the day I was born, so we grew up together. Her father was having knee surgery about a week ago, then the doctors let him home early. 3 days ago he started having a fever and felt week. The next day he died of a heart attack. I must attend his funeral this week. I am very nervous. What should I say to my friend (almost big sister) and her mom(which i call my momma kim or second mom)?
2007-02-19 19:20:22 · 7 answers · asked by youjrys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry to hear this very sad news. I dont think theres anything right or wrong you can say or do to make anybody feel better right after losing a loved one so i say the best thing you can do is just be there and stay close to her and her mom so you can hug them ALOT because they will need that the most! Tell them as you hug them that he's smiling down on them and watching them now and that he's in a far better place and he's not sad! God Bless You and that family that lost a father and a husband.
2007-02-19 19:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Greeneyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to console your friend. All you can say is that you are so sorry and be close with her mom and ask her if there is anything you can do.
Take an active role in funeral arrangements without stepping over their family's bounds and giving some elbow room for their privacy.
Send him flowers for the funeral.
When time comes to say an eulogy, offer to say a few words - keep it brief, 1 or 2 minutes tops, especially praising him as to how helpful he was and you are so lucky to have known this family because of his kind nature etc...
That's about all you can do, really. You can't go overboard - and induce emotion and grief in them. Show strength because they need you at this hour.
That's plenty in itself.
2007-02-19 19:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 08:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A huge hug can say a thousand words. I'm sorry for your friend and her family. I was 19 too when my dad died. It's very hard, but life was hectic then so I was preoccupied and I had little time to grieve.
2007-02-19 21:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by jondavesnowy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to support them in a non extravagent way...words may not even need to be a necessity except your presence and just being there...make sure they know you feel their pain and would be their for any assistance and a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen and someone to help release the emotional pain. Support is all i can recommend, and help them heal it will take awhile.
2007-02-20 06:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by hugabug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I"m sorry for your loss. My father just passed away on February 10th, so I know what she's going through. Just be their for her, support her during this very difficult time in her life. Let her know that you love and care for her and if she needs anything you will b their to assist her. And of course pray for her and her family, that God will comfort them during their hour of mourning.
2007-02-19 23:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can say you are so sorry for their loss but they know this already.Just be there and if a ny thing needs doing do it quietly small kindesses mean so much and often times are overlooked,God Bless you.
2007-02-21 18:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋