Is that a 'no no'. I would have arrangements with friends to pick her up in case I need to go to the hospital. But when the midwife leaves, it would just be the three of us. Opinions?
2007-02-19 19:10:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i have had 2 home births and my children have stayed at home with us, not in the same room though. i made sure we had someone else here to look after them and to take them should any problems occur and it really is a great feeling having the whole family there minutes after you have the baby,
I'm now having baby # 5 and the plan is the same home birth with all the family here and if things do go wrong the children will go with the person looking after them.
we have talked to them all so they under stand and hopefully wont panic if this happens.
at 7 you can explain all this to your daughter and hopefully she will under stand. ATM i have my 10yr old begging to be there when her brother is born!!! i personally think not at the birth it self but at home definitely
2007-02-20 00:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my now 11 yr old has been present for three births. one when she was 8, and the twins when she was 10. preperation is the key to having a succesful home birth with a child present. there are several videos that are excellent, like a clear road to birth.
the midwife can also help explain things and help prepare the child.
home birth is safer than a hospital birth. good for you deciding to go this route. congrats and best of luck
2007-02-19 20:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by kemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hospitals are now a lot more user friendly and you can still have a midwife so why take any unneccesary risks ----do you buy lottery tickets? then you know about chances so after planning, hoping , dreaming and waiting 9 months take advantage of modern medicine and health care if it is at all possible the other question re your 7 year old being with or near you I do not think this is a good idea. How much stress do you feel when the child is in pain? Spare your child that stress;ofcourse she/he can be told depending on how mature they are or how interested but telling is no way as stressful as being there. Children also get stressed by even a little blood loss and child birth means you lose more than just a little so please have your child stay with friends as you will be too busy to give the support and caring that the child is used to......
2007-02-19 19:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by njss 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
my daughter watched all 3 of her brother being born and she thought it was great
when i had my last SAM 9 randy 6 Ben 5 watch joey be born
Ben tried to push the Dr out of the way to get a better look at what was happening it was fun for all of them even the Dr was laughing
i had my sister there to keep an eye on them if they had any problems with it she would have taking them out of the room
we did remove them when the after birth came out so they would think it was another baby with something wrong with it
i think having them there made them all closer and i did not have any jealousy problems or fighting when they where young
2007-02-19 21:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a wonderful set-up, as long as you know you've got someone on call to take care of your 7-yr old if needed.
My older children have been present for the home-births of their younger siblings, without trauma to them, or any problems at all.
2007-02-20 00:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by L A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have to say i planned to have my twins in with me when i gave birth and they would have been 6years old and i went into premature labour with them there when i was driving to hospital and they kept talking and they were really freaking out as of the pain. So i changed my mind, for mine and there sake as i couldnt handle them in the backround when i was in pain. But when i am in labour i cant be touched so i guess that is me. But every one is different. But in saying that my sister had here step daughter who was 11 in there and she was grossed out. So good luck no matter what you choose. Maybe yes try but have a back up there to take her if needed. Bye
2007-02-19 19:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by karhs 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well it can eassily be tromatic for the 7 yr old if she heers u screaming and all that!! in fact the tromaticness of that mite even end up being assosiated with the new baby and u sertinly wouldnt want that!!! therefore you really need 2 make sure the 7 yr old doesnt experiance it, just 2 be on the safe side.
2007-02-19 19:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Been going on for millions of years.
2007-02-19 19:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ron H 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Midwife? Birthing at home? I'm sorry is it 1882 already? HELLO! Go to a hospital!!! Its safer for you and the baby.
2007-02-19 19:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tumbling Dice 5 · 2⤊ 7⤋