I am extremely attracted to my girlfriend. She is a 9 out of 10 but everything else is kind of problematic in the relationship. Any advise from guys about how to get over a really attractive girl? Serious answers only please.
2007-02-19 19:05:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations! You've finally reached that phase in your life where looks just don't cut it. A beautiful woman won't make you happy. A beautiful person will. It's your ego that is high right now and you're afraid of losing that. Just realize these things and you'll get over her. Besides, who says that there aren't any attractive 9 out of 10s out there with an actual personality that fits your mentality?
2007-02-19 19:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about "getting over" her. That is not going to happen
The issue now is just minimizing the damage
HOT CHICKS now and then date "nice guys" basically monogamous, sincere, and honest non-violent males, and I'm not talking wusses and marshmellows - just decent males perhaps some that come from a good family background with good role models as parents etc and desire to treat women like a gentlemen - and for example sometimes the kind that want to hold these chick's hand and take them to the movies or buy them an ice cream cone -that kind of thing. However, rarely do these kind of guys turn these chicks on in terms of the "big chemistry" - the cocaine type high these chicks crave so badly. However, before they dump these guys to go back to chasing bad guys , they usually start dropping hints - probably with the hope the guy might just walk away before they have to crush him - like she did the other 19 guys that treated her decently
The bottom line is to walk away while you can
Of course eventually any guy can turn into a the rotten guy women like this love, however the relationship with these ladies will be rotten in the long run anyways - because they need dysfuction and continual drama only a cheating, lying, threatening male can provide. However once a particular woman ID's a guy as a nice guy -he cannot fake being rotten
The old theories used to suggest that hot chicks basically all come from dysfunctional families and continually seek out rotten men to "right to old wrongs" from bad fathers etc
More logical is that hot chicks via basic evolutionary biology simply get lots of 'chemistry" going with men best fitting cave men most likely to increase their chances of moving their genes forward - aggressive, violent, cheaters (in caveman times called seed spreaders) In other words the illusion of genetic immortality only the cheater can offer them - in simplest terms the bad guys offer survival to the female
2007-02-20 03:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider that beauty is only skin deep. You could easily find another girl you are equally attracted to that actually has a personality you can live with. C'mon, looks are important, I know, it's no use going out with someone that turns you off, but if the rest of the package is a dud, they really aren't that attractive after all, don't you think? And women never shut up either, so you'd have to put up with endless crap if you stayed. Plus, she may try to take you for everything you've got. Again, is it really worth it?
There's lots of fish in the sea. Get a group of buddies together and go "fishing"!
2007-02-20 03:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks will fade.... dont see many grannies out there that are stunners without cosmetic surgery.
Point is... if you are looking long term... then you need someone that is your friend and mate.... not a glamour.
If her looks are the best thing about the relationship... you're not doing yourself or her any favours by keeping up the charade. No use dealing with all the problems if you cant sort them out in the end. Try talking to her about them... and if you cant talk it out.. it may be time to walk for both your good.
2007-02-20 03:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good is an exotic looking Car if there is no engine under the hood? Your girl may be hot but lacks substance. If you managed to pull her then you should have not problem in finding another pretty girl, one with more well rounded qualities beyond her looks. Forward me her picture, email, and phone number and i'll help you get her off your hands. =)
2007-02-20 03:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by anthonyjthan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are shallow enough to only want to be with her because she's extremely attractive then nothing anyone says her will deter you.
Maybe you should look at yourself a bit harder as the problems might be with you and not her.
2007-02-20 03:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by thelivinglegend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone's hotness is that big of a factor for you then isn't she perfect for you? If those other things that make you want to break up with her don't matter that much you wouldn't be wanting to leave her.
Oh, just noticed you wanted only guys. Oh, well; I think you should stay with her.
2007-02-20 03:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋