I hurt a co-workers feelings now he won't speak to me?

Question

I have secretly liked this guy for months. And about three weeks ago he started to show interest, starring at me, touching me, smiling etc. He called me and because of certain circumstances I told him I would rather have him in my life as a friend then not have him in my life at all. Now he won't talk to me. I asked him to call me, but he didn't. I asked him if he was mad at me he said no.
When I say hello to him he doesn't respond. I know I hurt his feelings, The truth of the matter is I really do want to be more than friends but he would lose his job if anyone found out so this is why I told him about being friends. I really care about him and only wanted to protect him. It's been three weeks now and so I wrote him a letter apoligizing for hurting his feelings and telling him how I really feel about him and that I do want to be more than friends. I catch him watching me from a distance, when I'm close by he won't look at me. He watches when I talk to other male co-workers.

What do these actions mean? Does he still care about me? He expressed to me that he likes me alot and that I was special. I regret telling him about just being friends. So now I've rtried everything to get him to talk to me and he's giving me the silent treatment. What I can't understand is why he watches me from a distance at work to see who I'm talking to? My gut feeling says he still likes me and has feelings for me but I know he's hurt and I feel really, really bad because he opened up to me and I basically turned him away with what I said. Any men out there who can give me some advise about what I should do now. I give him space I don't pressure him or anything. I'm hoping eventually he will come around and talk to me. This is really killing me inside. he's a wonderful person and has the character and personality I've been searching for, now I'm afraid that I messed up. Please Help. Thank You.

We work at the same place. The only way I will get over him is if I quit so that I won't see him anymore. I don't want to give up. When I asked him to go somewhere he told me he couldn't and I didn't take it as rejection, I let him explain why he couldn't go with me. SO why can't he give me the same chance to explain why I said what I did. Just as I did for him. You just can't turn feelings off and on like cold water when they are for real. I wrote him the letter so he would know what was in my heart. Basically I told him in the end it would be entirely up to him and whatever his decision, feelings or thoughts would be that I would respect them. Because he would always be special to me.

Answer 1

Unfortunatley, once you've rejected someone, you can't just turn back time and make things better. He's going to need to get over you on his own terms, in his own time. Give him some space, let him get over you. It's probably just as difficult right now for him as it is for you. Try to help yourself to get over him also. It's never easy to let someone go, but I think that you both need to try to move on. maybe some day there will be a time when you can both be together, but now obviously isn't that time. Be patient. good luck!! :)

Answer 2

The appropriete aspect to do is communicate including your manager abou itt, and stress the reality that the smell is amazingly offensive to you. in case you opt for to attitude your co-worker it may well be seen harrassment being that you suggested you do not get alongside, If no longer addressed through your manager or manager then contact your HR branch..

Answer 3

look if you get romanticly involved your jobs could be history you rejected him and hes dealing with it. you got to keep it simple your co workers.

Answer 4

LOOK make up your mind. LOOKS like he wants more then friends.

Answer 5

You rejected him.

He understands and accepts that.

Do you?