I've been dating my fiance for a lil over a year now and i feel like my sex drive has drastically deminished. it takes a lot to put me "in the mood," but once we're there, sex is great. it is a wonderful and pleasing thing for both of us. we've tried just about everything except going to the doctor and taking some kind of hormones. the toys, and thinking about him sexually and trying everything to stimualte our physical intrest. he's always had a higher sex drive than i, but now it leads to fights and insecurities. i want my sex drive to pick up so we can please each other again and spend most of our days happy, not irritated or angry. any advice?
2007-02-19 18:47:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you possibly depressed? Depression or stress can be a big sex drive killer.
But... when I went through this with my fiance, we just took a little time a part, and slowed down a little. We were still together and talked a lot on the phone, but after a week of not seeing each other at all, it made my body realize how great it is to have him around and the sex drive returned.
It also helped that he started doing sweet little things as a surprise. So maybe, you can have your fiance surprise you with meaningful gestures.
2007-02-19 18:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why women fake it. Do not destroy both of your life's let him go and look for a man that has the same drive as you do. May be you can watch porn it works for some people. If it doesn't work at lease you tried. You may find looking at different porn what really turns you on. May be women. If you can not make a go of it do not have children and destroy their lives also. You are trying this is heading in the right direction Good luck
2007-02-19 18:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going to the doctor if it's becoming a real problem. There are some non prescription, natural libido enhancers that you can purchase from the super market like horny goats weed or a product called Wyld. It could also just be a hormonal change that you are going through and it might pass naturally.
2007-02-19 18:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't use toys. you should go out and pamper yourself, you know buy super cute or sexy panties, get pedicures, your hair done. or maybe you already do..
hm have phone sex, role play, handcuffs, anything kinky, give each other massages. have him tease you more often and make you beg for him and then he'll give it to you real good..that hopefully you'll be thinking about it all the time :]
go a day without wearing panties.
just be really affectionate towards one another.
sorry i couldn't help since i don't have that problem. i wish i knew why i had such a high sex drive
2007-02-19 19:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 08:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor. Your hormones may be out of whack, or you may be helped by certain medications (these actually do exist for women, believe it or not.) A simple blood test is probably all it will take.
If nothing works, when it comes down to it, you may just not be getting the particular 'attention' you need, or you may just not be interested, period. Your doctor can probably refer you to someone who can help with these problems, but when it comes down to it, if you don't feel interested, it's not your fault.
2007-02-19 18:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting lots of exercise will boost your stamina and also being a healthy weight helps. Take vitamins and eat some oysters !!!
Watch romantic movies with lots of passion...NO, not porn !!! I don't believe in that crap...has no place in a relationship, or in the world, for that matter. But you get my point ? All these should help ya out. Have fun...
2007-02-19 18:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
porn to turn you on or give you ideas. maybe sex more often- to get you used to getting it a lot. psycholgical- you may have a reason you dont want to as much- like are you mad at him for anything, or has he gained weight. or do you feel different about your own body - maybe you feel less attractive or less like you want to show it all off. if it leads to fights-then that may e hurting it too. it's too much pressure. you want to perform, and you want to want him- so yu may have the same drive you did before but now it's a bigger deal and you're noticing it more
2007-02-19 19:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by michelle342 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about not getting sex for few nights like you know voluntary celibacy whatever you call it then tear each other apart on the dds(designated day of sex).Maybe you're into the plateau stage of relationship.
2007-02-19 18:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by geleskie2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women's brains stop producing a chemical that causes thier s*x drive. it is very common, and can be equalized with medication. these r not meds that leave u like a zombie, but if u take them he had better be ready, because u will be a animal.
2007-02-19 18:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋