Is it really strange to have such sexual desire for a man this much older than me? I am really attracted to this man for some strange reason and I can't really figure out why. Meanwhile, the lads my own age do nothing for me these days. Is this real odd or is it just a phase most women in their early 20s go through?
2007-02-19 18:46:25 · 30 answers · asked by Rita K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way! It will only be about sex, that's for sure.
I think that a man that old is very lucky that that's not illegal. What, just because it is by a couple years, that makes it ok?
That's just lust. He needs to control himself, and you be careful.
I wouldn't date a baby girl. There's plenty of hot ladies in a much closer age range for me. I'm 42, and there's no way I would "eye' at a little young lady like that.
Sick. Don't fall for his advances. At least go up to 31 yrs. if you seriously won't date closer to your age.
Sorry, it's just that I see young ladies like that getting taken advantage of for one thing only. Then, before you know it they are financially dependent on the older man.
2007-02-19 21:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by jamz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can be subconscious like wanting a "fatherly figure" not a "boyfriend". It is quite an age difference, and it makes it a challenge due to the thoughts of "he's old enough to be her daddy", "he's a perv.", and then the thoughts about you, that might hurt you like "she's a gold digger", or "a sicko", and so on. That definitely puts pressure on relationships as this.
Also knowing that there is such an age difference, there are so many different interest at both of these ages for each sex to take into consideration.
It's good to get a partner that you can call "your best friend", so you may want to take the time to get to know some twenty something yr. olds! There are actually some mature ones out there if you give a chance!
I think this was just a phase, really. Older guys have alot of changes that are not always positive to their bodies/minds at older age!
Have fun with your youth and you'll have an older guy later anyway!
2007-02-19 19:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by jamz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in this day and age it really isn't that odd. But there are still people out there who wouldn't agree with it, like your parents maybe. You gotta think about the looks that both of you will get if your seen in the street together, could you cope with that? At the end of the day as most people say age is only a number, but on the flip side of that old age brings problems like arthiritis, diabetes and other age related illnesses. If you can cope with eventually becoming a nurse then it's all good. go for it!
2007-02-19 18:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's odd. My boyfriend is 14 years older than me. We've been together for 2 years now we live together and it's great. We're so close, always on the same wave length. We finish each others sentences off and all that stuff! Life is good and why waste time on people our own age, I wondered whether I should hve persued our relationship but I'm sure as hell glad I did, if you end it you'll always wonder why. The most important thing is does this guy feel the same way for you? I hope he does! Good luck! You should go for it no matter what anyone says, follow your heart! x
2007-02-19 19:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start trembling over 80-year-olds, you might want to find out why. But with what you're describing, don't worry about it. Yes, some women go through a stage like this. Some pretty much stay that way.
The age difference you're describing isn't that extreme for a physical or non-permanent relationship. If you start thinking about marrying somebody that much older, consider what life will be like when you're 50 and after.
Good luck and have fun.
2007-02-19 18:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 23 year old guy with no experience of this age gap thing, but I believe love can overcome any obstacle. If this girl loves this old man, and he her, then I don't think they should worry about what people around them think. Age is just a number, after all. Love is alot bigger than that.
2016-05-23 22:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 36, and would never consider having sex with that young of a lady. It makes me think of my two daughters and nieces, and that really creeps me out! Just a few years before they were still in puberty. So that's a turn off.
I have had the absolute best sex with the older ones! Not real old enough to be my mother or nothing. Trust me, my friends and I are not a bad looking group. We go out and I get plenty of attention. It's nothing like that.
I've found that women in the mid 30's and 40's are the absolute best lovers. They really understand their bodies and are in their prime. Now, that's a turn on.
2007-02-19 19:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its just a sexual desire, what is the problem... you're attracted to him sexually, which generally means you want to have sex with that person.
Unless emotions are involved in the situation, its a no brainer... Go for it.
If However, its only a sexual thing and he wants a relationship... then walk away.
If Anna Nicole taught us anything... its that age doesnt matter, nor do looks.... but when money is involved it gets messy.
Still dont know why that old guy lowered his standards though...
2007-02-19 18:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call it what you want, physical attraction, chemistry or plain lust. What you have found with this guy is special; however you may not want to act on this attraction. I'd find out if you have anything in common with him, or if he has the kind of personality that pleases you. In other words, find out more about him before you decide to act on this attraction the same as you would or should do if he was a guy twenty years younger. Use the tools your mama gave you and take care of yourself!
2007-02-19 18:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knew of a couple that tried this. Both of them totally regret it. He was annoyed with her all the time, and only wanted her to come by once a week. Wonder why? He actually had her believing the sweet nothins he told her. really.
She thought she liked older men, better to be taken care of. But always talked about some sick stuff (details) about his sexual performances. She liked one thing. He bought her more expensive gifts than the young men for her birthday, xmas, etc.
Ya, it ended ugly. But true.
Both first attracted by desire.
careful, think first
2007-02-19 21:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋