My stomach has a knot in it and my heart feels so hurt,I'm so tired of feeling this, I keep praying it will go away.I was thinking maybe I feel this and it won't go away because I did nothing wrong but give him the space he asked 4 2 think & now he doesn't talk 2 me @ all.He doesn't answer my texts,calls.I have friends,but they can't fill the void I'm feeling now.I'm just tired of feeling this,when will it go away....?
2007-02-19 18:42:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just give it time. Take things day by day. Talk to people when you need to and rely on your close friends and family (it is what they are there for) for comfort and people to talk to.
Take as much time as you need, try not to be an undue burden on anyone, and just take baby steps. It will get better. I promise.
I broke up with my girlfriend of nearly three years EXACTLY one year ago from Wednesday (feb 22 of '06). I felt exactly as you do right now. I can honestly say that the first few weeks were absolutely hellish. I couldn't sleep without dreaming of my ex and every waking moment was spent in really bad emotional pain.
It got better though. I got to talk it out. I was able to get my emotions out in a healthy way (by talking to my friends, family, etc). Pretty soon after those first few weeks...it sucked...but not quite as bad. Then things just kind of move forward whether you want them to or not unless you ACTIVELY try to stop them from going forward.
2007-02-19 18:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Evan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh poor girl, I wish there were some magic solution to this age old question. There is a saying that the only cure for a broken heart is time, and I'm afraid that really is true. Allow yourself the time it is going to take to get through this. Be kind to yourself. Try to eat as healthy as you can. Drink lots of water. Stay away from alcohol if that is something you usually partake in. It only makes things feel worse. Also try to get daily exercise.Read some books about powerful women, and try to keep yourself busy doing things that have nothing to do with your relationship. But most of all, allow yourself to feel the pain. You can't go around it, you can't go over it or below it, the only way is through it. It sucks!There are no two ways about it, but know you are not alone. Even though you feel like no one could possibly have ever felt as horrible as you do right now, I can assure you that is what it feels like to most people going through what you are going through. You will be surprised when the day comes along when you realize that what he has done was not very nice, and that you deserve better. Keep your chin up. This too shall pass. I feel for ya.
2007-02-19 18:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by chica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It will go away but not just in a second. You have the right to feel the way you feel because he did not tell you exactly that you should stop it but he needed time to think. In your mind comes that why did he not tell you the truth? BECAUSE HE IS A LIAR AND NOT HONEST. Sometimes we feel the pain not because of what happened but because of the time we have wasted with the person we thought is good enough. Keep on praying for healing and one thing that can help you stop worring is that you should know that he is happy when he sees you sad. He likes it that way, or maybe he does not care at all he is moving on with his life, Then move on with your life, It is always good to break up before marriage than to commit yourself to a person who will cause pain of divorce. Pray and go through it you will get the right guy and never allow yourself to think that all men are the same.
2007-02-19 18:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard i know to let go of a love that almost seemed to be apart of us, and though you say your heart is breaking as you say time and acceptance is the key that will eventually help you heal and move on.....when people say that they have a broken heart, i like to think that it is not broken but filled with overflowing love that that cannot be stopped..... you at the moment are still in love, and that love is not being retunrned that's what hurts....but always when we truly let go of something it makes room for something else to come into our lives, holding onto a love that no longer aknowledges you will only increase your hurt, you have to accept, when you learn this things start to get easier....you won't hurt forever.... good luck and be kind to yourself.
2007-02-19 18:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In time, darlin. Calling him, texting him will only make the hurt go on longer.
Stop wrestling with your past. It's like a heavy weight draggin you down. Close your eyes and imagine yourself with this big ol stone on your shoulders, all bent over and sweaty. Now see yourself empowered to stand up and let the stone just roll off your back. Oh doesn't that feel good! Out from under that weight you don't have to carry it around anymore.
The past hurts, but you're living in the here and now and soon the pain from that ol relationship will go away, just like that rock went away. When you're really tired of being under the weight of it, you'll be willing to let it go. Start by standing up straight and smiling You are beautiful. You can stand upright and strong. It takes time, but your emotions will catch up to your body.
2007-02-19 18:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by CHos3n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through this also. You just have to live day to day, and try and do other things. The hurt never goes away, but it does lesson with time. Hes not the only person out there. There is so much out there for you to see. You can find love again and be happy. If he needs his space, then he may not be the one for you. Someone who truly loves you wants to be around you and do things together. Stop trying to contact him, and just be yourself if you do this he will wonder what is up with you not calling him. If he does try to contact you than keep it short like you have other things you need to do. If he really does love and need you he will come after you. Just don't get your hopes up to high. You will always have someone in your life. I hope this helps you.
2007-02-19 18:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by alone 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you need to realise that this guy doesn't want anything to do with you, I know it is harsh but he is not worth your effort and by the sounds of it nothing will change his mind.
The only thing that will mend your heart is time, I know this not easy but it's the only way. Go out with your friends and try to have some fun you never know you might surprise yourself and enjoy the time out.
Just remember everyone has been in your situation and you wont be the last.
Good luck my thoughts are with you.
2007-02-19 18:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Day 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Repeat after me--You can't get rid of NORMAL feelings. &
Repeat again after me, THESE FEELINGS ARE NORMAL. You may hate those feelings with every fiber of your body, but you are going to feel them unless you anesthesize them with alcohol or any other drug of your choice. There is no golden answer that will magically alleviate all of the feelings that you are experiencing at this moment. I recall a professor of mine saying he personally knew 750 individuals that were incapable of feeling emotional pain--they're in the cementary in his hometown. Faced with the alternative, I think I would rather hurt from unrequited love. But believe me when I say that the sting of the pain subsides, to be replaced with memories (at first bittersweet) of those times you shared,
2007-02-19 19:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it will go away trust me.. you just have to believe in yourself.. its probably because you gave so much and you never left something for yourself.. was there a fight before the breakup? if there was.. maybe because you're guilty.. or if you're not.. you must really love him! take it easy.. there are still many fishes in the sea.. i cant comfort you or tell you to lighten up a little.. only you can move on.. only you can make that decision to forgive and forget.. just dont forget to pray.. Godbless you
2007-02-19 18:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my friend only one person can fill that void space in your heart and that is Jesus. In order for you to know Him read the bible.
2007-02-19 18:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by totit73 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋