2007-02-19 18:23:33 · 26 answers · asked by Tiffany H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really depends on their level of insight, their sense of humour, their ability to laugh at themselves, and as with most problems, their willingness to place effort in trying to address it.
Under the right circumstances, someone like this can be a lot of fun, under different circumstances they can suck the life out of you...
2007-02-19 18:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by doc in dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like them there is nothing wrong with it, having someone you like go on a date with you can help the esteem and over time fix both the insecurity and low self esteem...
On the other hand, NO... doing it out of sympathy does neither party any good. Might even unleash that psychotic stalker they've been keeping inside. It's always the quiet ones...
2007-02-19 18:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how extreme their low self-esteem is. Everyone has low self-esteem in one way or another, including these people above me who's fronting as if they always feel in control of their lives.
Of the guy is extreme, then clearly don't do it, he might even be bipolar. BUT If he's just got the normal basic insecurities and has them for real reasons, and can be solved, you might help him out and bond with him more, bringing you both closer together. But only if he's the kind who will be openedminded and listen. And only if your calm, secure enough, and high enough self0esteem to talk to him about it rationally. He may help you solve your insecurities too, everyone has them, nobodies perfect.
I suspect that some of the women responding are people who disappear as soon as their man hits a difficult time in his life. Some girlfriends they are.
By the way, this has not happened to me, I simply simpathize with those, male or female, who are abandoned by their lovers simply because they couldn't deal with the fact that life isn't alway sunshine and icecream. People need a reality check.
2007-02-19 18:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very okay, you just have to be carefull what you do. They may not know it at the time, but by you asking them out, your saying, "Hey! I see something in you that I like, something thats worthwhile." Everybody is insecure about something, some are just more pronounced about showing it. Be sure to give them compliments, but only if they're true. Dont be cruel, but dont lie to them. Pick out at least one thing that attracted you to them and once you get to know them better, tell them. A person who is insecure and has low self esteem, wasnt born that way, they were made. If you go out on a date with them, you get to undo some of the damage that was done. Do it with and open heart and lots of patience and you'll soon see a response from them. Good luck :)
2007-02-19 18:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like the person and see alot of good qualities and have fun when you are with them then sure why not date them. Everyone needs encouragement, compliments and love. Without it we are not human, some of us just need more than others. Yes they can bring you down, even the gentlest soul can break under pressure of someone that is insecure and controlling. I do not agree with the saying that you can not love others until you love yourself though. If I can teach you one thing it is that you can not change anyone at all, any way, not even through loving them enough. They have to want to change or get better for themselves or it will never happen.
2007-02-19 18:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can help him But sometimes they never change and keep being the same with low opinions of themselves,and you will get tired of trying to re educate his mind. Maybe with maturity he will improve. Is he worth a try?
2007-02-19 18:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Juliette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that depends on whether its a temporary thing or what the insecurities are, etc. maybe ok to date and just have fun as friends until you notice some positve changes. peace
2007-02-19 18:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am that person, and what the other answers seas can be true.Get with them to a psychiatrist be their for them but if their anker starts to poul you down back a way.If you can tell them why you are backing off or leeving.Good Luck.
2007-02-19 19:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date, yes. Live life with, no. Be sure you have a way out of the dating loop in case his problems are yours.
2007-02-19 18:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the type who rescues stray animals, you got your call.Sometimes these people are just reaching out for emotional help.You might be the angel of this person.Try it and if it doesn't work then move on.
2007-02-19 18:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by geleskie2001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋