"i am in love with someone else and i am married and has one baby boy, what should i do?

Question

it been three yaers i am married and has one baby boy he is 22monthes. i am working and one day i left for work realated matters and i met my love.i realy feel something for him which i dont feel for my husband!i asked my husband to leave but didnt tell him why but he refused although he want to he refused because of our son.
what should i do i feel deep in my heart that i want that man.but the one i love is married too and got tow wonderful kids, he is not ready to leave his life for me he made that clear for me but i cant leave him i just cant!!!!

Answer 1

Hun, your first mistake was assuming that a married man would leave his wife and kids for you. It works the same way it would if you were single and he was married. It is very rare that a married person will leave their spouse for someone else.

I cannot fathome why you would break up your marriage for a man. Ever stop to think about your son? The fact that you asked your husband to leave is disturbing. You are willing to give up your life now for something that is clearly all in your head. Honey men don't think with their heads, just to let you know.

What you need to do is get off the computer and patch things up with your husband. Seek some councelling. If at all possible stop talking to this man. If you need to find another job. It's not breaking up a sacred bond over stupidity.

Answer 2

Obviously you have a problem and its mental. You are not being fair at all to your husband and you certainly aren't being fair to your child. The whole point of taking vows is that they are a law binding promise to be with someone and a religious promise that it will be forever hence the till death do us part. The fact that you are willing to break up your family for someone else who also has a family and obviously more common sense that you do to not want to leave his family is sad and demeaning to yourself. If you are unhappy in your marriage you owe it to your husband to tell him the truth about how you feel and give him the chance to respond. Remember that you have a child together so you two will always be together and he will always be around.
I would say good luck but there's no luck in this one. Be smart not a homewrecker and that term refers to your own home as well.