How do I get a guy to like me?

Question

There's this guy I like and we're pretty good friends. Not best of friends but good enough. So I like him, and instead of having the awkward "I like you" talk, I was hoping to get him to ask me out. I want him to like me more than he does but I don't know how to make him want me.

I guess I didn't phrase it properly. I'm a lot of things. I just want to know what it is that guys like that I can show. I refuse to change myself for anyone so that's not what I'm trying to do.

Answer 1

Good, an indirect approach is always more fun, and in this love issues, and think is the best approach. So you already won his friendship, take it to the next level: get some sparks for the fire.

Here are my easy to follow 4 strategies to start the fire of love:

Stage One: if you are not doing it yet, start with the double meanings. For example when I heard a woman said how good was the banana she was having, I got turned on; of course she was talking about a banana split, not a penis. One of three things may happen, both of you will start joking around, or he'll give you a poker face (both are good signs), or he'll give you a disgust face. If the last happens, I am sorry he doesn't like you. Poker face or laughing are good, though. Gradually start using double meanings and be subtle; if you cannot come up with with our, ask your lady friends.

Second step: flirting. Come on, you women know how to flirt. During my last year of highschool a girl persuaded me of doing a few of her assignments. How? Flirting. She would approach me and smile at me, say hi, and leave happy; like I made her day. Or she would tell me to show her how to draw, and she would get really close to me, so close I could smell the perfume and her skin. Sometimes she would comment on the muscles of my arms, and told me she had to touch them because if not something bad will happen to them. Etc, etc; ask your girl friends, I bet they have many, many more; like always saying hi with a kiss on the cheek, and saying bye by passing the hand over the guys shoulders. Good times, good times.

Step three: make him jealous. After a few weeks of step one and two, that you should have gradually introduced, it's time to motivate him to take action or realize he likes you. Be very, very careful with this because if he's already deep fallen for you but he hasn't told you, this can end up bad. Be watchful of signs of danger and prevent them; do not get anyone hurt (physically), including yourself. Okay, now that I scared you with that, let me tell you how the jealousy trap does not work. Do not talk about other men that you like or men that like you in front of him. Never. And never lie about it either. If you do, it will come back to you, in one way or another. Believe me. So what you do is let him see you with a guy that you like or a guy that likes you. Be friendly (not flirty) to that guy, and completely ignore the guy you are trying to get jealous. When you get a reaction (jealousy) stop, take your jealous man away with you or follow him if he got sad and is trying to go hide defeated by the other guys charm. If you did not get a reaction, I am sorry, maybe he's gay. A reaction can be anything so be alert: he stops talking to you, he's quieter than usual, he walks away when you were talking to the other guy, he gets moody for no reason, he interrupts the conversation with the other guy, he acts like a jerk, etc. Women, you should know.

Last step: getting him to talk about his feelings. One of these days when you see him the most emotional (very happy with you, or very supportive with you, very understanding with you, etc). Take him or get him to go somewhere where only the two of you will be. No public places please; men don't open up in public. How about his or your house, or inside his or your car (no making out in the car please), or better yet, in a starry night outside, in an almost empty park, or in the backyard of his or you home. Once you have him cornered , start asking him questions, deep questions. For example if you did step 3 (which I hope it wasn't necessary) and got a reaction, after taking him to a place where both can be alone, ask him "are you okay? Is something the matter? I am here for you, tell me what are you feeling?" If he's really macho like me, he will respond rude, cold, and may even say mean things. If that happens don't deny it hurts, but stay calm and undertanding and walk away. It's important that you walk away if he was mean. Let him think about what he did, and he'll burn inside with guilt; give him another change other day (repeat step 4). If you got the opposite reaction, congratulations you did it, you gained his heart. Now rip his chest, take out his heart and break it. No I'm kidding, don't do that.

Answer 2

Very simple, show him that you care, offer to clean his room when you are arround, it does not mean that you will clean his room forever but you are doing this to get his attention. don't take him out for lunch but prepare lunch at his place, Tie his shoelace,adjust his belt even if it is not scew. And while doing that a kiss will lend in your lips without a word being said, the rest will be happy after.

Answer 3

FIRST OFF YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE LIKE YOU. Just be yourself...dont try to be someone your not just to try to get a date. Either the dude is interested in you and will ask you or he isnt interested in you in that aspect. Maybe You should ask him out for coffe and go from there...
Good luck

Answer 4

Talk about him, his interests and such and such.

Always be there for him. Show that you care. Talk to him about nothing, talk to him about everything. I dunno. You gotta start somewhere. Don't really know what else to say, since I want to know this myself. Haha.