We go out and have some drinks and he just dosnt know when to stop. I will pick a fight with him because i worry. I have almost fought with him to the point that we are about to leave each other. I cannot help but think that sometimes he needs to act his age and stop drinking all afternoon and night. I dont want to be the girlfriend or possible wife sitting at home waiting for him not knowing if he is ok. How can i go about handling my situation in a better way and not to argue?
2007-02-19 17:18:41 · 8 answers · asked by Katie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right to be concerned, but picking a fight with him isn't gonna get the results you want. Doing that will only push him away and resent you.
You need to sit him down at home or at his place and tell him how concerned you are about his drinking and you care about him a lot. Don't nag him; go easy with it.
2007-02-19 17:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not talk to him about his excessive drinking while he's drinking. Talk to him when he's sober. Find other things to do than go drinking. If it doesn't improve, you will have to decide if you want to be that wife, sitting home alone while he's out getting drunk or if it is time to move on.
2007-02-20 01:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how you feel. but you can not change a person. you have to accept him the way he is , and if you can't its time to move on and find someone that don't drink that much and you wouldn't have to worry about what time will he get home. good luck.
2007-02-20 01:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set it straight before any commitment. Tell him if he can not stop drinking now, you will leave him. That will wake him up.
2007-02-20 01:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be yourself. If he cant handle who you are then he is not the right one. This is the advise my grandparents gave me and they have been married over 55 years. I have a happy marriage because of this advise they have to love you for who you are. My mom used this same advise when she married my father and they have been married over 25 years. allways be yourself and the right person will accept you for who you are.
2007-02-20 01:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by wombatwaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to mature. i think you should leave him and come back when hes grown up a bit... drinking alot had bad longterm outcomes...it leads to violence and its just not a good idea.... u deserve better than this.
2007-02-20 01:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by ElBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i really hate to tell you this- he really don't appreciate you at all. personally id leave him. he needs to know that you are a person and not a piece of meat
2007-02-20 01:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by tony c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ONLY WAY HE MIGHT EVER CONSIDER IT IF YOU LEAVE HIM AND TELL HIM YOU WON'T COME BACK UNTIL YOU STOP DRINKING .
2007-02-20 01:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋