2007-02-19 17:09:40 · 9 answers · asked by cowboysfan312004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
find someone who is real who will help you carry the load. If she is going to marry you she should marry you for who you are. If she is trying to change you now it will be even worse later.
2007-02-19 17:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by wombatwaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your opinions on important matters, like finances, differ. Before you get married, you should have a talk about each of your expectations for the marriage. Sounds like she expects you to support her. If you believe in a two income household, maybe before kids or throughout the marriage, you should let her know that. As for the current situation, ask her why she wants you to get a better job. Maybe it's because you deserve better or a different job would be a better stepping stone for your career. Definitely address the fact that you don't appreciate her criticizing your job when she doesn't have one at all, but don't devalue her, that will not go go over well!
2007-02-20 01:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is pushing you into doing something you don't want to do, amybe there is some problems You need to figure this out, somehow, cause it's amajor sign of problems in the future. It would be MUCH better to wokr it out now and have things go good then wait and have it end bad. I would suggest just talking with her, be open, and work it all out. Find out why she feels tht, what you feel, and find a common ground.
2007-02-20 01:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to get a new fiance, it not about the job you have
or have not, she knew this before you got together so iwould not
change my self for any one. if she does not lke what going on
'then maybe you need to think long and hard about what you are]
getting in to.. you know if she has issues about this, then she
will have issues about others thing that dont seem right to her.
sound like she trying to change you. and that not good.
2007-02-20 01:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry if this sounds mean, but i think she's just looking for someone to take care of her and not do anything for herself. has she ever had a job? if not, you might want to rethink this marriage. unless you're comfortable with her staying at home being a housewive and you going to work every day, then you need to have a talk with her. good luck witt this:)
2007-02-20 01:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get into a Christian church and hold off on everything until you check in with God; He has a plan for your life which will give you all of your hearts desires. You will be so glad you did!!!
Counting my blessings
Sista C
2007-02-20 01:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by sista c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is earning more than you at present, she would be more comfortable if you are earning at least as much as she is. i'm sure you would too. it is not about being chauvinistic, but most women would be happier with more money, specially if 'their man' is earning it.
2007-02-20 01:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by drbony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her feel your full support... if she can't get any wors, it can only mean better
2007-02-20 01:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by firefox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think she deserves to be your fiance...
2007-02-20 15:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by jhen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋