If my body is telling me i'm ready to have sex, do I lisen?

Question

I'm 18 years old and I am not waiting till i'm married till I have sex i'm just waiting for the right person. I've dating alot of people in the past and I have always told myself i'm not just going to give myself away to a jackass who dosn't care less about me. I'm currently a feshman in college and I have been seeing someone for 5 weeks and made it offical on valentines day. It's like when we are together(we have done everything but sex) it's like my body is dying to take that next step.

He is the nicest guy, still a virgin, we are very close but his main concer is if we don't work out in the long run he dosn't want to ever emotionally hurt me.(i'm his coxin on the rowing team and technecally we arnt supposed to be dating so we just havn't told anyone but are close friends)

I know that i'm ready and he is the kind of guy i want to loose it to. I don't intend on ever sleeping around but it's like this unbelievable force by nature that my body wants to when we are together.

Think I should follow my feelings or wait longer and not give in to temptation. My mom was a virgin till she meet my dad and I don't want to take the same path...

Answer 1

My advice in this situation is to wait. Not wait till you're married, wait till you're sure. If you have any doubts, don't do it. Sex is a genie that doesn't ever go back into the bottle.

I waited till I was 20 before I had sex the first time. I don't regret it, but I wished I had waited longer. I thought that she was the one, but I wasn't quite sure. I would change the past so that I had waited till I WAS sure. She probably would have still been my first, but I would like to have spent more time knowing, instead of just hoping and believing.

I really hope this helps.

Good luck, and God bless

Answer 2

I am confused...you are not waiting to have sex till you are married but you are waiting for the right person.....isnt the one who is "right" for you supposed to be the one you marry?
I do understand where you are coming from. My best advice to you both is just to be smart in whatever you decision you make. Use protection....also if you think you are ready for sex be sure you are ready to handle the consequences that come along with it. I became a mom at nineteen...i thought that i had experienced the world and was ready for anything life threw at me...my first daughter is the product of a faulty condom. I love her to death and wouldnt trade her for the world but had i to do it over again i would of waited and been more careful.
Also be sure you two are ready for the emotions that come with it. Once you cross that line a whole new set of emotions is released....i mean come on you two have just shared a part of your bodies that you have not shared with anyone else before.
Sex is great but it is a very emotional and powerful thing and its something that should be carefully thought out and prepared for. Do what you feel is best just be sure you are protected and prepared.
Good Luck!!

Answer 3

No matter what your age - if you really don't want to wait until you get married, then nothing is stopping you. Just make sure of a few things first: make very sure that you guys use protection! It would be a shame if your first time lands you with a baby. Make very sure that you care enough about this guy - because if things do not work out between you two in the long run, you need to be able to be completely comfortable with having lost your virginity to him. Even if things go wrong, you need to be able to know that he will respect you enough now to go about spreading stories about you. Do you get what I'm saying?

Regardless of how nice he is now - you should be able to trust him enough to know that you'll always be glad your first time was with him, even if things don't work out in the end. Your memories of your first time should be cherished and special, even if you don't stay together.

Then, if you are sure about all this and you are still sure you want to do this - then go ahead.

Answer 4

" . . .My mom was a virgin till she met my dad and I don't want to take the same path . . ." ????? Why? That sounds like your mom was really wise. Having sex is more than satisfying a need. It should be a very deep relationship before sharing your body totally (preferably marriage). My advice is to wait awhile.

Answer 5

Well if your mind and your values agree go for it. You said you wanna give it to someone that cares.But it is a known fact that in barely over a month he probably doean't have that many feelings. Either way you have to decide. It's your life and only you now whats best for you.

Answer 6

You are absolutely ready. Bravo for listening to your body and your mind and waiting until the time was right. Go have a great time. You're gonna love it. and he's gonna love you for it.

Answer 7

If you think that this guy is the 'right' guy, go for it. Just make sure that it's not something you're going to regret. Use protection and have fun.

Answer 8

Well, mind over matter.
Give yourself to someone who worth it, the one you truly love and love you in return, so you wont regret giving up yourself.
Do it in a right person, right place and situation, in the person you love most.

Answer 9

it not your body that you need to be listen to, it your heart, when
you are ready then you willl know if this is the one for you. but
dont rush anything. it only been 5 weeks with this young man.
i would waiit to see how this realtionship goes before you make
a mistake that you cant correct.

Answer 10

believe in urself.. if u are ready just go for it... be rmb to have protection... as i dun think not much gals will want to get pregnant at only e age of 18...