On July 3, 2006, Scott convinced himself he was totally in love with me spending every possible moment he could right by my side. I wasn't in love, in fact I felt smothered but admit I enjoyed his company & his help repairing items around the house, he'd even paid my bills since I'm out of work & still out of work. Yes, he wanted sex but I wanted to be really sure he cared about me. Three months later I figured, OK, he really does care about me. We had sex. Almost immediately after, Scott totally changed into a jerk, lying, avoiding my calls, talking behind my back, standing me up. I just found out I am pregnant. I told Scott & he flew into a rage first denying the baby is his then demanding I get an abortion. He big time lied about wanting to make me his wife & having a child with me. After many failed attempts to contact Scott, he finally emails me saying, "I will drop $400 off & I am done!" I am unemployed with some bills past due & very depressed. I'll be 40 next month. Help!
2007-02-19 16:42:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's important to add the fact that I am TOTALLY alone on this one. My mom & sisters do NOT contact me nor invite me to spend Christmas, Thanksgiving or any other holiday with them the past 9 years. NO, can't find comfort or support there regardless of the fact she's well-to-do. Kills me. Second time now my moms favorite daughter is staying with my mom so she can save money to build a new house but I can't get a $1000 loan. I do have a girlfriend but haven't spoke with her in awhile since she got involved with a new companion whom controls her.
If anyone has any suggestions how they think I might be able to cope a little better in my current situation. it would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-19 19:58:01 · update #1
yes, he is a jerk, thats why people keep saying, save sex until marriage that way you have nothing to lose. Guys will tell you anthing to get what they want.
2007-02-19 16:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath- it will be OK. OK so Scott is gone- no biggy. Are you going to keep your baby or give it up for adoption. If you decide to keep your baby you can go to your local health department and they can help you with prenatal health, and get you squared away with your bills and an attorney to work out child support. If you decide to visit with an adoption agency- they will also help you with prenatal visits and your bills. You might even make some good contacts while you are there (possible job) Either way, don't look down on yourself or your baby.Scott was not the man you hoped for, but all things happen for a reason. Take his $400 bucks pay some bills- then forget about him.
2007-02-20 00:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by gigglinn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG Miss that man did u wrong but u know what God never give or put anything in ur life that u cant handle......thats why God made us females brave no matter what types or drama and situation we fall into but we still gotta stand up tall and Do tha damn thang..... i mean from woman to woman u gotta stop feeling sorry for urself and began to take care of urself and ur baby.....cuz if u dont no body go do it for u...find u a lil job, get help from churches, or then foundation that help people, or whateva it takes for u to get back on ur feet.....and i hope u still have that $400 because u need that to help u in tha long run i mean just spend it wisley
but as far as that guy....girl u can handle him and put him on child support fast....i just dont know what else to tell u but dont let this bring u down because it will make u stronger and smarter and i know time is really hard for u not but behind then dark clouds will be a brighter day just waiting to shine on u and ur child beauty
so good dluck and congrads
hope i help u anyway possible even if it is helping u to boost up ur self eestem and confidence
2007-02-20 01:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be depress.. go get some financial aid or any job, any really. Don't worry about bills.. keep the money for the food instead..
But really.. although he is a jerk.. you should ask yourself why didn't you use some protection when dealing with a guy that you aren't even really into..
Conclusion.. he is a big jerk, but being 40 next month.. you can be more careful when dealing with people.
2007-02-20 00:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by alvineager 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is a jerk.Yes you were stupid not using protection.Your choice either have a baby at the tender age of 40 or have an abortion before it goes to far.Now you will probably have to get state aide and when the baby is born get a pregnancy test,the state will insist anyway the go after him for child support.Sock it to him honey.
2007-02-20 00:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh babe... you need to consider your options big time... if you want you child you need to get a job, it doesnt matter what job just any job. then you need to go to a goverment funding type place... to organise child support. its not up to him how much he gives you... $400 wont do anything! this is his responsibility too. do you have anyone who can help out? family friends? you need to lean on them for support... you need to get your act together and start new. you have a child on its way, doesnt matter if you want it or not, even if you dont and you get rid of it you still need a job and live a propper life. you need to really think about it and talk it over with some friends and also a doctor. you need to hear all your options. good luck babe, we're all here for you
2007-02-20 00:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is a real jerk ! You should not want a relationship with him no more. He is immature and dont want a relationship so what you should do is find a job and forget him.
2007-02-20 00:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by seven_sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this guy is a total loser. sorry about your dilema and all, but in the long run your going to be way better without him.
2007-02-20 00:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by mighty1981mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....sorry thats what you get when you go for the bad boys.....
2007-02-20 00:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Clementine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋