My boyfriend and I have tried having sex several time in the past couple months but he cant seem to get it up of either isnt in the mood..he says it isnt me but I kinda think it might be. I do everything possible to get him there he just cant...we are in our early 20s & have been together 6 years.. he has never had this problem before...but he has never really be that big on having sex he said he could take it or leave it..wheat does this men..help!!!
2007-02-19 15:48:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, no matter what anybody will tell you it isn't your fault. He may be stressing about something, or maybe there is a medical problem you don't know about. You shouldn't dump him, just because you are having problems in one area. If you love him and I suspect you do because you have been together for 6 years then just talk to him about what may be stressing him out. Hope this helps!
2007-02-20 14:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by evelemperess_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of impotence problems that young, but I suppose it could happen. Have him talk with a doctor about it, and if he's unwilling to do that, try and do some research together with him on the situation. Otherwise, it may just be that he doesn't have the physical attraction required for it. I know with my first girlfriend, I had problems, because she was extremely obese, and was a big turn-off. (She was a 21 year old virgin, and only seemed to want me to take that, then go away anyway. She broke up with me over the phone shortly after I refused to do it.) Maybe something about you bothers him enough to cause that. Seeing how you've been together so long, I would recommend looking up the impotence thing though. Good luck figuring it out.
2007-02-20 00:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by MilitiaMasterV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either getting so much action from another source or maybe he's stressing out over something that's really bothering him.
The next time you get intimate make sure you have total privacy, you're not rushing to have a quicky, etc. take your time, enjoy exploring each others bodies. If you're an attractive women he should be able to function.
Also - is he on any medication? That could effect his performance or lack of as well.
2007-02-20 00:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds to me that someone is probably dealing with some sort of guilt over something. When he tells you it isn't your fault, he's probably telling the truth. I'd find out whats going on......something isn't right somewhere.
2007-02-20 00:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy like that - he couldn't get it up no matter what. It ended quick.
If your guy was fine before and this is a new problem, you deserve to know what's going on!
2007-02-19 23:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be unhappy with his past performances or unhappy with himself. Wear sexy clothes and you make the first move and things will turn around.
2007-02-20 22:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just have those kind of problemes... Try Viagra?
2007-02-19 23:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are butt ugly or he is gay. That's the bottom line. Want to find out, get him a gay pron movie and watch it with him. Then see how the sex will be.
2007-02-20 00:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it means for whatever reason he is not interested and please it is not you it is definitely him --- in my 20's it was as often as possible with my wife -- maybe he has some physical problems that need to be looked at
2007-02-20 00:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no love (romantically speaking) without lust.
find someone else who wants you.
2007-02-20 00:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋