I'm in love with two guys what should I do?

Question

I'm in love with two guys and don't know what to do. This one guy we met on the internet. We have been talking for long time. But he lives in Michigan. The other guy we are engaged. The guy in Michigan is my boyfriend but we never met in person. I don't know what to do?Please help me ?

What I didn't tell yall was the guy I am engaged to cheated on me first. So make me out to be the bad person? He lies to me. He know about the guy because the guy calls while he is home.

Answer 1

Stop cheating! You are engaged? What are you thinking? You are not ready for marriage. You need to do some soul searching and some growing up.

Answer 2

Ok, the people above being so rude and calling you a whore really need to lighten up. I mean come on people, I'm sure we've all had to make this decision at one time or another or have been tempted by another, so really lighten up!

Since, you are engaged and not yet married, you may need to tell your fiance you need a break for a little bit and do some soul searching. It sounds like you may not be ready to take the big leap into marriage. You should meet this man in Michigan after you've told the truth to you're fiance, and see what he's like. Maybe, he's your soul mate or maybe you'll be like what am I doing here, I miss my fiance, and I've made a terrible mistake. I hope your fiance can be understanding enough to give you time, but when your married you will always be wondering what might of been with the other. So, take some time before it's permanent, and you will find the answer your searching for.

Answer 3

I think that you can love them both, however I don't think that you can be in love with them both. You should sit down and way your options. Think about all the good and bad things that both of them have going on and determine which one you just can't live without. I know you say you love the guy in Michigan but you haven't even seen him and although you think that you know him now you can't really know someone until you have been around them. Also, no matter what people say, you have to be attracted to the person that you want to be with. I know it's not about looks, but it has to be something physically about that person that you like and what if you met Mr. Michigan and you don't like the way he looks or anything about him? You say Mr. Michigan is your boyfriend but you're engaged to the other guy, so it looks like you've already made up your mind. Don't feel so bad about the situation, everybody makes mistakes. It's how you correct the present/ future that makes you a bigger and better woman not what you've done in the past. Just let your heart lead you where you need to go. Don't let Mr. Right slip through your hands by chasing Mr. Wrong.

Answer 4

An internet boyfriend? And your engaged. Consider the fact that you don't know how the internet bf acts in person. You can say a lot of bs about yourself on the internet, which should be obvious. As for your fiance, if you aren't even that loyal to him, do you really think you should be engaged to the guy? How can you seriously be in love with some dude you've never even met? On the internet you don't have a tone of voice, you aren't seeing how jealous the person really is, and it sounds like some kinda lust to me. And you can't even use the terms "going-out," "dating," "together," etc. because you've never even seen the guy. Look at this situation from someone else's point of view, and help the other two guys, and yourself out.

Answer 5

Girl you crazy...you cannot possibly be in love with two people, especially when one is on the net. Does the guy you are engaged to know about the internet guy? I am guessing he probably does not know.

The internet guy you have never met in person so for all you know he could be a serial killer or rapist. I do not have anything against internet love, but for you to never meet the guy and be in love is ridiculous. He is not a real person until you meet him.

I think you should be honest with both guys and see if they still are interested in you then...you cannot be in love with two guys because you are cheating the guy you are engaged to big time. I am sure he would not be in love with you if he knew about the internet boyfriend...girl get help

Answer 6

But if you wish to keep both.
Going to be tough , you broke the main rule of having two lovers, you became overly involved with one *engaged*.
If you are not sure, now, you don't want to be married to the guy, you have not committed to the relationship, it would just make you miserable.

You will need a calender to keep track of where you are to be on what day and time it can get confusing.

Call them Honey or dear, or something besides their name, it makes it easier on you .

You need to keep a certain emotional distance, So that the relationships are light and easy. As long as you are "playing the field", there is no problem. The hanger comes if you are telling them both they are you one and only.
You can love them both,, as long as the relationships do not become exclusive,
That way you won't be lying or cheating.
Holidays can be a real problem, and can bec expensive , buying double gifts. If you give them both the same thing, make sure you get two separate receipts, in case one gift has to be returned to the store.
Eventually what usually happens is one will become closer than the other. He will wa chase off the other guys, then he will take off, and you wi;; be alone again.
So don't be in any hurry to decide between them.
If pinned down with questions,don't lie, be truthful, and it will work out just fine.

Answer 7

Gosh it is difficult to tell you which way to turn. First I think both guys would be better off without you. You can't have a boy friend and at the same time be engaged to be married. Before you do anything else I think you should take a good look at yourself and perhaps come to the conclusion that you shouldn't be in any relationship until you are mature enough to know what you want.

Answer 8

be very cautious of people off of the net..sometimes they can be really good at telling you what you want to hear and it is VERY easy to get wrapped up in a fantasy relationship that way. I did and it has been far from the best thing that I can say I have ever done. The man I thought was so perfect.blah blah just turned out to be a player and I have been just one out of more than a few women that he has played off the internet. Is it worth the risk? You yourself are cheating and I think mentioning marriage with all of this going on is a really bad idea.

Answer 9

I say let the guy in Michigan go you haven't really met him in person and talking over the internet can be danger you only going by what he wants you to know you really don't know the whole truth about him and what he really does who's know you might be his prey and the guy you engaged to at least you know him if not you wouldn't be engage to him.

Answer 10

Obviously you are not ready to get marry so, back off. Your other one from Michigan is only an infatuated relationship.
In my opinion you cannot love two individuals at the same time and the same way. One you are in love (lust), the other you love for what he is and the way he treats you. In your case none of the above applied. If you marry the one you are engage you are going to be unfaithful because you sound like you are that type of woman.

Answer 11

Hon.........he isn't your bf because it is a internet relationship and you REALLY don't know him. He feels wonderful and perfect and meets your needs because it is fantasy.
You have a real life guy who wants to marry you. Please end your engagment if you can't be comitted to one guy.
Sounds like you have an internet addiction and this guy in Michigan means a lot to you.......YOU are in fact cheating on the guy you are engaged to.
If you truely loved the guy from the internet you would meet him and be with him.These long distance relationships are dillusional.

Please pick one guy. Actually you are cheating on the both of them. Would you want a guy doing that to you??