What do you do when your ex bf plays your emotions like a yo yo?

Question

When you stop all communications, he begs and cries and bring flowers. Once you give him a chance he goes back to his old self - ignore you, neglect you and too busy for you which brings pain - Given him second chance but he is now back to rude self. This is like a cycle. How can I get strength to lose him forever?

Answer 1

You need to balance who's more important in your life, Him or you? If you choose him you have a big problem, if you choose you, it means that you're on time to realize that he isn't good for your life, kick him off your life and keep walking, may be you are denying the opportunity to be happy to your self by staying next to this looser and the real love isn't too far away, but you can't see it because you are blinding your self. Give your self a chance.

Answer 2

Well you know it's a cycle..
And you know what that cycle brings..
So it seems to me you've answered yourself.
You have to dump him.. move on... don't look back.

Don't give him another chance.. Get some friends to help.
Do everything in your power to ignore his pleas. He will try to make you feel bad and selfish and guilty but you have to realize that this is all a ploy.
He will never change..
RuN!!!!

Answer 3

Forgive me for saying this, Sweetie, but the truth is, he's not playing your emotions. You just think he is, and the truth is, you're actually playing his and that you're likely too blind to his feelings, that you can't understand him. If he goes back to ignoring you, it's likley because he's still emotional over your hurting him, hasn't recovered fully yet, and having hurt him (he might think deliberately) you're cointinuing to hurt him. You really want to lose him? YOu really hate him that much? (is it possible you always hated him and deceived him, which is a bad thing to do?) Leave the country and change your name. I'm sorry, but I, too was once hurt. But I didn't persist, after beging her forgiveness once. Don't ask me to tell you something about her, not online, anyway.

Answer 4

Ive been in a situation like this before and it ended pretty bad. I broke up with him first cause I was not happy, then he wanted me back, I thought he might change but he didnt, but then he hurt me and broke it off for no reason...it hurt, he kept calling me saying all those sweet things, I was telling myself to take it slow. One night myself an my friend, also his friend ( but mine first) was invited to hang out with him, little did I know he invited some girl. We ahd broken up about a week prior. He was flirting with her right in front of me all night. I confronted him as he was walking to the restroom, and his friends/my friends were sitting right there when I asked him what he was doing/intentions he said I do what I want and spilled a pint of beer all over me, on a whim I threw the glass at him as he was walking away and I hit him in the back of the head. He was pissed and called me all the names out there. I told him sorry a few days later and that was that... Do me a favor save yourself from a situation/confrontation like this. He plays your emotions just so he can have CONTROL. pleaseplease please realize that you deserve better. Im now engaged to a wonderful man that would never hurt me, makes me feel good about myself and keeps his promises. you deserve it too :) good luck

Answer 5

Just cut off contact with him if u can and dont take him back again ever, unless he somehow proves to u he has changed for good and u want him. Chances are this will never happen, he is just taking u for granted and u r letting him by giving him another chance. Just move on to somethin better

Answer 6

my x husband was a real u know what when i dated him and i broke up w/him FOR GOOD or so i thought. he found me, did the crying and begging routine and stupid me, gave him another chance. time went by yadda yadda yadda, the abuse did not stop, i got pregnant, we got married and he played the kids like he played me, then left us all for an 18 yr old. i had to go thru ALOT b4 i figured out these guys are garbage. i love my kids and am grateful to GOD that i have them, but as for my x, i wouldnt give u a penny for him. get and stay on the right track and find someone who is good and right for YOU and you for him.

Answer 7

Kick him to the curve. You shouldn't let you emotions get played like a yo-yo. Ask yourself this question would like for one to do your daughter like that if you had a daughter? Find somebody who will treat you the way they want to be treated. Found someone better. And for what goes around comes back around!

Answer 8

SCREW this guy...he is playing you like a banjo. He assumes by being a nice guy he can get you back yet he cannot be nice while you are with him. I think you should just move on.

If he played you once he will do it again, don't you think you are worth more than that? Sorry but I don't want someone who is only nice when they fear getting dumped...he is a loser...!

Answer 9

Do what the different female did. stay faraway from him and drop contact with him. He needs to augment up and end being a consumer. So what if he feels harm, heavily? for sure he ought to care a lot less about your emotions.

Answer 10

He only wants you as long as you are telling him No. You need to remember that everytime he comes running back to you. You need to remember how badly he treats you every time he runs back. You need to just cutt all ties, and when he asks you what you've been up to, just say "nothing" and when he tries to get details, just give simple open answers, nothing specific.