i know him since an year now.i met him online we were very good friends, we used to talk on phone everyday, he showed his feelings for me, and i also started to like him, he had really bad past, a girl deceived him, we never met , few problems occured and he hurt me like any thing, i cutoff contact with him after 6 months he tried to contact me again. this time we met first time,i really have feelings for this guy, i like him , the first time we met he told me that he likes me but he needs time for making any commitment, the second time i met him , then i asked are you happy with our relationship he said, i need time for everything.......i really dont understand why he needs time to decide whether he wants me or not? i am really confused.......his female friend says that if i will spend more time with him( in group of friends) it will be easierfor him to decided ..he calls me everyday tell me about how he spend his whole day, but my question is what if i get too much involved and he d
2007-02-19 15:29:14 · 17 answers · asked by Ashiii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and even afterthat he doesnt make up his mind? i mean my feelings were not one sided then why is is asking for time? is it natural or he is just trying to make a relation?? will he hurt me?? i am very confused:( by the way i have met him only 2 times, and with group of friends....need suggestions please
2007-02-19 15:31:01 · update #1
I would not wait on him to make up his mind if I was in your situation. Life is too short to spend waiting and wondering. Move on. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make sure you know it. Make sure if that happens, he really does make you know it and not just make you wonder. Don't allow yourself to be hopeful until he gives you a solid legitimate reason to be. Consider what it really is rather than what you perhaps want it to be.
2007-02-19 15:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are funny like that I had a guy I knew and we spent everyday together, And he all of the sudden went out with some other girl.But I was glad in the end because I found the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. I would tell him that if he really cared for me he would give me an answer about if you should keep waiting or move on
2007-02-19 15:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by motherof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty fish in the sea but if you REALLY like this guy, you will wait for him to heal. Just as a man will wait for sex if he really likes a woman, a woman will wait for commitment from a man who has been hurt. If you can wait, you may have a great man on your hands. I bet he'll never cheat on you. He knows how it feels. but he needs to feel safe with you first. Besides, what is a committed relationship, but an extension of friendship taken to the next level. Take it step by step and listen to his friends, they know him best.
2007-02-19 15:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Starshika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait around for him, he sounds like he has a troubled past and he has not learned to grow up and take a positive direction in his life. As long as he thinks you are chasing him he will think he can just string you along. My guess is that his next line will be along the lines "I think I love you but to be sure we should sleep together, this will help me make up my mind". Sorry dear he sounds like an immature loser and I advise you to find someone else.
2007-02-19 15:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-19 15:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by sushimaven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he was wrecked by his last relationship. he isnt hiding anything from you. think of it like a death of a spouse. it takes time to get over it. dont push him. dont smother him. let him heal in his own way. if you want to wait and see what happens then by all means do so. but if i were you i wouldnt. hes just not ready, and when he is he will probably look for someone completely new.
2007-02-19 15:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is getting over his past. Give him the time he needs and keep hanging out in a group of friends. If you're not willing to wait then you don't really like him.
2007-02-19 15:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Ashiii sincerely advise that Be Careful he is not looking sincere as he is asking for time it means he is weak decision man or want to spend time on you to for get past and you don’t know that who was actually wrong he or that girl because you know only on side you don’t know that what happened of that girl may be he is misguiding you and his purpose…………….may be…………..or he is habitual
2007-02-20 20:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by Akmal Zaidi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep meeting him in groups ,be safe ,Do not have sex with him .
He has a bad past and may not have completely changed .
Meet other people he sounds unstable .
2007-02-19 15:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow down, you can't pressure a person into a relationship. You haven't even gotten to know him yet.
Give it some time.
2007-02-19 15:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋