I NEED him.?

Question

Okay, so there's this guy at my school and I like him a lot. I've kinda liked him for a long time, but I haven't told anyone. Recently, he started staring and we've made eye contact and smiled a few times. The thing is, he's probably a 9 out of ten on the social ladder whereas I'm probably a 7. I want to tlk to him, but I'm scared. I don't know what to say. I know most people are going to say just tlk to him, but it's not that easy. I need help. I need him.

okay let me add some more to this. He just moved to our school this year. I don't think the reason he won't talk to me is because of my social status because I know some guys that are good friends with him and they tlk about him and he does not seem to be the kind of guy to do that. Thank you so much for your answers! They really help.

Answer 1

I'm gonna let you in on a little secret. :)

If he does like you, regardless of you being a 7 and him being a 9 (which is kinda silly in the first place), you're the GIRL. That means you automatically have the upper hand. I know that sounds silly, and I'm not trying to sound sexist or anything, but young men are a strange breed and 9 times out of 10 they don't know what to do with a woman.

Ever heard of that saying with wild animals - they're more afraid of you than you are of them. Well, it's crude, but it's kinda true here. Guys your age do not know how to handle a girl they like, so instead of worrying about being afraid of him, take a deep breath and realize you're on top already.

I'm in no way saying abuse this power - that would be terrible for both of you. Focus on making him comfortable. If you put your energy into putting him at ease, you'll be too preoccupied to be nervous anyway.

Answer 2

Haha, well you don't need him for one lol. But don't be scared to talk to him just because of both of your "social status's," it shouldn't matter too much. If he really liked you, he wouldn't worry about about how popular you were. It's already been said, but just ask how are you when you get a chance, or if your near him during lunch just try and make small talk. You really don't want to blow past this situation, you'll regret it later. Maybe he's just as shy as you are, but without speaking to him and making jokes, you'll never know. Try to make him laugh. Good luck.

Answer 3

social ladder, huh. wow must be tough to be so low on it. now what makes you think he is a 9 and your a 7. is there a chart for you to look at to know. or are you just guessing. i know its not that easy to just walk up to him and say hi. for heavens sake dont even think of writing him a note. if he doesnt like you he will show it to every one and they will all laugh at you for being so silly.you do have a problem. well the next time he smiles at you, smile and motion for him to come over to you. if he does then just start talking to him.

Answer 4

wow! im going through that same thing right now with me being the 7 and him being the 9. im not a loser but that seems to be the only ones im attracting. but i know exactly how you feel. i dont know if you are but im shy...very shy when meeting new people. I think though that you should just try talking to him. later on wait and then start flirting some. but i know exactly how you feel and your not alone. good luck! :)

Answer 5

hmmmm
start easy
say hi next time you pass him in the hall
and then start to ask stuff like
"how was your day"

(dont ask "whats up" unless he is a big talker, if you ask that you will only get a "not much" and then you wont know what else to say. )

Answer 6

forget perceptions of social ladders and all that rubbish --- you may be hurt --- he may be a complete jerk --- you will never know until you talk to him --- so just talk --- dont tell him anything ---- if he likes you he will show it as you will show him you like him --- just the way you talk to each other will do it --- best wishes