What would you suggest I do? I really don't want my kids around that kind of language but she seems oblivious to my requests.
2007-02-19 15:21:26 · 35 answers · asked by wattie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I suggest telling your friend that if she doesn't stop then she can't be around your kids anymore. It's obvious that she seems to have no respect for how you want to raise your kids or for common decency around children. I congratulate you for putting your foot down and doing what's right for your children. And don't let that old excuse, "They'll hear it anyway sooner or later" get by you. Kids should be kids. That's what childhood is for. And likewise, adults should be adults.
2007-02-19 15:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Danny H 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on what relationship she has with your kids. If it is positive, then it's a good chance to tell your kids that some good people have bad habits, and you don't want them to be using that kind of language.
If the relationship is neutral or negative, then see her when you don't have the kids. It's a no-brainer, like someone said. I think she'd be happier to see you without the kids, too, if she doesn't have any relationship with them.
I know it means you see her less often, but really, who needs that kind of stress? Keep her on the Christmas card list, and pick up the relationship again when the kids are older.
2007-02-19 19:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The choices you make for your kids are much more important than a disrespectful friend.If she won't listen to you then about the only thing you can do is make the choice not to see her. At the very least not around your kids.Maybe she'll ask you why when shes ready to listen.She needs to understand and respect your choices for your children . If she can't do that ...... maybe she's not a friend at all .
Good luck to you ..... I know it's an ongoing battle !! : )
2007-02-19 16:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is being a bad influence on your kids. End of story. From what you've said it sounds like you've been very clear to this person. However, state it clearly one more time, and the next time they swear ask them to leave. And follow through. Your kids shouldn't be exposed to bad language, and that this person is oblivious is unacceptable.
2007-02-19 16:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by westieluv24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so used to swearing it just comes out without my thinking of it. Do you think she having that problem or just being ignorant to what you ask of her? If she doesn't care for your request I wouldn't have her around the kids and wonder how much of a friend is she really that she doesn't care to hear your requests.
2007-02-19 15:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by Samara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent it is your job to protect your kids from what you see as threatening to them in any way-ask her one more time and tell her this is the last time i'm asking you-if she does it again ask her to leave or leave with your kids and dont second guess your job as their parent. If she cant respect you enough to stop she is not a true friend-is it really that hard to not cuss in front of kids?
2007-02-19 16:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she's being very disrespectfull to your wishes if you've asked her to stop. You could either make her pay a dollar everytime she swears(and use it for some form of entertainment for your children) or only have her over when your children are asleep or away. Good luck, once children develop this bad habit it's hard to break.
2007-02-19 15:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to correct her everytime she does it, or your children will learn it's acceptable. You have to increase the punishment you use to correct her, or your children will think you are inconsistant. She doesn't seem to think you're serious. You have to show her that you are serious in order to show your kids that you're serious. If you let her get away with it, but punish your kids, they will be rightfully angry and rebelious towards you. You have to be firm. That's your job. What if you only punished one child for something but let the other always get away with it. You know the kinda Hell they would put you through for that. This is exactly the same. Stick to your guns.
2007-02-19 15:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there it is terrible. All you can do is ask/insist that she watch her mouth in front of your children. If she won't listen you will have to see her without the kids or discontinue your friendship. If she really wants you as a friend she should listen to you it really isn't like you are being unreasonable.
2007-02-19 15:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by phylobri 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a box of cookies and a bar of soap nearby and some milk at the ready. And when your friend begins to swear call your kids over and invite them to have milk and cookies. But give your friend milk and a bar of soup.
2007-02-19 16:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Remus 54 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋