This is VERY long and will span several posts
I just asked a question in fitness and got results almost immediately so I feel encouraged to ask some more…
I have had a boyfriend, who I will call Keen for anonymity reasons, for almost 9 months now. Before we dated we was going out with another girl and even admitted to liking me and hung out with me while dating her, but not sort of ‘cheating’ beyond that occurred, which I don’t consider cheating.
We would talk for HOURS. It was wonderful, he made me feel loved. When we dated, it got better. For the first few months. Then we would argue about silly stuff and serious stuff and he always manage to make me apologize.
I think it was around the 7th month I really noticed a change. I noticed, when chatting online, he didn’t use anymore of his cute little faces” such as “XD” and “X3” and so on, little stuff, but it just made everything he said so impersonal when he used to have every sentence with it.
2007-02-19 15:19:42 · 2 answers · asked by kekeke123 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Since around January his friend has come into the picture. I will call him Juan. He has depression problems but is probably one of the nicest people I have ever met. Him and Keen used to be best friends, had a falling out and have since then become good friends again. Juan is also MY best friend because I tell him my dirtiest secrets and when I just need to break down about how my relationship is just crumbling.
He tells me he cares about me and that he still likes me from last year, when we originally met. He came over for a weekend with me and my boyfriend and once we were all home and messaged me saying all the times my boyfriend would say sopemthign nasty to me when “playing aro8nd” he wanted to hug me and tell me he was just kdding.
And, since lately I’m not hearing very much romantic stuff from my boyfriend, juan is basically being ideal.
Of course, I should add…My boyfriend admitted in mid januarry he had been talking to girl for a few weeks.
2007-02-19 15:20:33 · update #1
He says she is his COUSIN.
He was taking a shower one dya and I log on his email and read the messages from her…The most horrible thing I could have ever done…
She’d play aorudnw ith him calling him sexy and saying things like “Wish I could have met you before I left”
Definetely not something your cousin says.
I was upset but didn’t confront him on it but he did find out I had checked but didn’t ention the messages he knew I read. Its since then he has been les sinclined to allow me to be emotional around him. The smallest fluctuation in my mood causes him to get fed up with me…
I’m so confused…I want my old boyfriend back, the one who called me beautiful and hugged and kissed me for no other reason then because I was me. One who ddint need other girls to talk to because I was the one he wanted…
But this new change hurts me so much because I feel it’s my fault..
And Juan is trying to date another girl but he still talks to romantic to me in a friendly way, not in a way
2007-02-19 15:20:46 · update #2
would suggest he wants me to leave my boyfriend, because I told him of my problem and he said to trust my boyfriend.
I’m so confused.
Not only this but I also suspect myself of having rapid cycling bipolar disorder, as it runs in my family and I have every symptom. I would like mood stabilizers to see if they help my relationship steady out…
That’s quite a read and I probably look like the villain in that story…
Please answer honestly…
MY mood is killing the relationship, I just get so irritated after bouts of happiness and down and horrifically depressed and I think Its about to push my boyfriend away...
2007-02-19 15:22:08 · update #3
Well, you definitely need to confront your boyfriend. The way to approach him is to say, "I know what's going on. Anything you need to tell me about your 'cousin?'" Hopefully, he'll come clean and let you know that it's not as bad as you think it is. If you just come straight out and say exactly what you know, he'll think up some other explanation/lie for it and make you believe him, so just force him to tell you first. If your boyfriend really is cheating on you with this girl, he's a complete douche. Dump him. But don't immediately fall for Mr. Sensitivo Juan either. While he might be good for a cry-on-my-shoulder lay following the breakup, he probably is preying on you, sad to say. Many guys do this "vulture" thing where they pick up on the vibes of girls going through tough times in their relationships and pounce. And if you need a little lovin' post-breakup, then that's fine, but don't expect it to go anywhere.
My two cents. Hope everything works out!
2007-02-19 15:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Beauty Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your DR & get a referal to a shrink Go to your school nurse for help if you have no insurance Meds should help Good Luck
2007-02-19 16:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋