Advise on guys...honest answers only please!?

Question

What do guys really (and I mean really) want in a girl? Is it looks, sense of humor, intelligence? What are the must have qualities? You can give your opinion, the opinions of your friends, family, whoever! Any honest answers are definately appreciated!

Answer 1

Colleen,

I like a smart girl who is funny. The qualities that I respect in a woman is for her to be independent and that she can be fine being alone once in a while. I find it funny to see the girl cling on her man's arm while walking as though the wind would blow her away.

Other qualities that are intriguing is a moral supporter. In other words, think "cheerleader", a guy would really appreciate a girl to be supportive of him, and "cheer" him in doing the things he do and "cheer" him up when he's down. To put it in another way, to find out if you and your boyfriend are right for each other is that what he wants from you.... are also what you want in a man.

Answer 2

Well first, I feel that it is wrong to throw guys into one group. Generally, men get a bad wrap about only caring about how a girl looks. If you really consider it, if a girl being pretty is the only good part of a relationship for a guy, it won't last that long because the other 90% of the time when he is not messing around with her, he has to put up with her if he doesn't like her. I must warn you though, my opinion is slightly skewed cause I am a virgin who was molested as a child so, I don't care for physical aspects as much as others tend to.
I think a great thing to have in a girl is just the general ability to talk. By this, I mean just being able to strike up conversations easily and keep them going for a very long time and never get tired of talking to the person. The quality that I value most in a girl, next to compatibility, is the willingness of the girl to adapt and realize the needs of others and, in doing so, realize that concessions are made in life and that it isn't always about her.
Next, I look at view of life. Lets face it, dating a girl who is a complete pessimist is no fun. I would love to have a girl who thinks positive and could be considered a hopeless romantic.
The next thing I would check out is the girl's taste in music. As shallow as this may sound, a person's taste in music speaks deeply about their personality. Although some people don't listen to lyrics all the time, I find that one can indirectly or directly find out what a person is like based on their taste in music.
Finally, I would look at the girl's family and her interaction with them. (there are exceptions to this in divorced households). If the girls doesn't know her bio parents, I just watch her interaction with the people she lives with. I find that this shows how she will treat me 5 months into the relationship.
Sorry for the mile long answer, this question kinda struck a chord.

Answer 3

When I am looking for a girlfriend I usually look for several Qualities. I know I'm probably picky, but here goes. Romantic as in Cuddly and affectionate, Polite and Lady like (doesn't use foul language or slang) Pretty Hair and Eyes, Very good Hygiene Especially in the Sexual Regions, Good outward appearance (well Combed hair, Smells good Well Bathed and showered(Essentially Clean all the time and is interested in keeping good hygiene) Good Teeth, Good overall Health, One who Offers Helpful opinions and advice, She has got to be intelligent, but not a smart-ars, Witty, cunning and have a good sense of humor. Has a good sense of self preservation, but is not greedy. Someone who likes me for who I am not what I have.

That Pretty much sums it up! if you have any further questions or want to tell me that I'm really picky (which I already Know) feel free to E-mail me at [e-mail]... Most of those qualities are looked for, but some are more important than others. No one else should Contact me for any other reason!

Answer 4

Looks, intelligence, humor are all good qualities which guys like in a girl. However, I think guys are really attracted to confident friendly girls who are open-minded and goal-oriented.

Each guy is different of course but overall I would say that is most important to a QUALITY guy. Another thing is there are some meatheads stuck on the physical or how popular a girl is, but those guys are most likely losers.

Answer 5

That really just depends on the guy. Not every women wants the same qualities in men as others..
for example.. some men.. only want sex.. so they would be looking for a female that is "easy" I would assume.
Other men look for personality, so would want maybe someone with a sense of humor??
Although, there are some men out there, like my Husband for example, that have had their share of dating, and look for someone they could see their self settling down with. Maybe a female with a good career or morals??
Then their are those guys, who are shallow, and only want the best looking female..
they usually end up being single in the end lol..
buy anyway..
I guess just try to find out the interest of the guy you may be interested in.. and see if his interests are the same.. that really is the only way...
hope this helps.. and
good luck!

Answer 6

Well, explain to your boyfriend that you do love him, you're just not as comfortable with it anymore and it's changing your body in a way that you don;t like. It has nothing to do with him personally, he didn't do anything wrong. And tell him that no matter what things you two disagree on, or changes either of you want to make, that you will always love each other. Or, if he knows you're married tell him the truth if your comfortable. I totally know how you feel and sympathize with your situation. I'm in love with 2 men as well, but don't get to see the other one because my husband always watches me. But what sucks is that my husband and I never have sex. he's a recovering addict and his sex drive is all messed up. But then my other guy wants sex all the time and I love it! But we haven't physically seen each other for a year now. We only talk online, and it hurts cause I miss him so much. Hopefully things work out for the both of us. =) But yah I would just tell your bf that it's stretching my body and I don't like the way it looks/feels, and suggest other ways to please each other.

Answer 7

I'm a guy, and there are a few things I personally look for when I want to get to know, or even start going out with, a girl. Though I hate to say it, how they look definitely impacts my first opinion of them... though once I get to know them that can change, either for good or bad. The other main thing I look for is their personality. I like girls who like to have fun, and have a since of humor. There are also some lesser things that I look at, like their friends...

Answer 8

Guys look for everything you stated and none of them. Most guys are looking for True Love. It don't matter about looks, humor or intelligence.Now due to the male ego most guys will not admit this. Don't try not stereo type guys, that's like guys trying to stereo type blonds. Honest answer is what I look for in a women. The number one thing that I look for is honesty.

Answer 9

For serious relationships. I guess what they're looking for is the perfect mixture of the attributes that you mentioned. How much of it is different for different types of guys.. There is no such thing as an "ideal woman" for all guys,,, so the only thing that any woman can do is just be yourself. Dont change anything. Love yourself for who YOU are.

You know.. honestly, I don't think you should be asking that question. Coz,, it seems to me,, that when a woman starts asking questions about what guys like.. it's like you want to change who you are to suit what they want. You know what I mean?

You shouldn't change yourself for anyone. You are who you are. You need to start to like yourself first before you can expect anyone to like you.

There are different types of people in the world and they all have their own types. Somewhere out there is a man who sees you as "the perfect woman." In the mean time, just sit tight, start liking yourself, pamper yourself once in while, and remember that patience is a virtue. Don't rush yourself in finding your perfect mate.

Answer 10

there's no general laundry list of what a guy likes in a girl because everyone is different. some guys like aggressive, and some like meek and shyness. Some like a woman that is strong and will speak her mind. Some like them sleezy and easy, and some like them classy and prudent. But as far as like wife material I believe they want a woman that is likable among his family members, a respectable woman who wants something for herself. Attractiveness, and someone who is open as far as communication. When guys have issues, they can't talk to their guy friends about all their emotional distresses. So as women we serve as the emotional outlet to express their feelings upon. guys are physical creatures and always believe that strength outweighs anything, so they'll cry on your shoulder before a guy friend. But since everyones needs and tastes are different, the most important thing for a woman to do is to be herself and not to sell ourselves short like sometimes that we do. Be true to yourself and not put on a fascade, and you'll gain more respect and more of his heart and friendship that way in the end.