My son is the first born and is 16 yrs old me and him dont see eye to eye all the time.Like most teenagers and their parents I think. We have problems with the hair cuts he wants the clothes he wears and school grades. He does mostly good in school in grades and behaving. He is a very good kid never no problems with the law or school,drugs,alcohol, pretty good kid.Me and his mother are divorced been that way for 12 yrs. It seems like when I tell him something he doesnt have to listen to me when he is at his mothers house. I try to be involved in his life as much as I can with band, driving, all that he is interested I support him in every way that I can, but I worry about him all the time. I know a teenager needs time with his friends and to have a life of his own but he seems to pick his friends over me to do things with,even after we schedule time to do things together.He breaks his promise and it no big deal with him. Please help me understand! no sarcasim please.
2007-02-19 15:08:53 · 7 answers · asked by WILLIAM W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All kids seem to go through this. When you were his age did you rebel? Was there anything that your parents did that could have changed that? I hate to say it but just be there and be supportive of him, but get used to being on the bottom of his favorite people list. His friends will come before you for a while now. He is just learning to be independant. Be there for him if he has problems and never say I told you so. That will drive him away more. Also, NEVER ever say anything bad about his mom in front of him no matter what. He will love his mom no matter what she does and if you bash her in any way he will just be mad at you and not want to be around you. Try inviting him and his friends to do something that you know they would have fun at. Good luck!! God bless!
2007-02-19 15:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by kikigeorgie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal and natural behavior. Teenagers don't really appreciate their parents sacrifices or even their presence in their lives. It will come later in life. He's going through a phase. Just make sure you are there for him when he comes looking for you. Try to stay in his life as much as he lets you. That's all you can do. Any more and you will be pushing him away.
2007-02-19 15:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually he seems like a very normal teen. He has conflicts with you but no major life problems. He does pretty well in school but would rather go with his friends than his parent.
I do think you should talk to him about keeping his word, but that's really your call, not mine.
I don't blame you for worrying, things are pretty scary these days. But as I said, he sounds quite normal.
2007-02-19 15:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a very caring father. Your son needs to rebel a little and feel independent. Don't worry - he will come back to you when he is more mature and appreciate you again. Hang in there and be consistent.
2007-02-19 17:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you telling him what you're telling us?
Maybe if you explain this to him but also tell him you'd like to be with him and understand him and let him know that he's ready to you'll be there.Just don't go chaseing him and when he gets mad about it say that you didn't think he cared what you thought.Then ask him.Do you really care what I think.If you do lets do something together and ask him what he'd like to do.If he can't figure anything see if he agree's with what you want to do.
2007-02-19 15:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Matty G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't woory about it. Kids that age think more of their friends than their parents. If your son needs help, he knows you'll be there for him. As he gets older, he'll appreciate you more and more.
2007-02-19 15:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him tell him dat not us
2007-02-19 15:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by simply lovely 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋