I tried setting up my best friend with this guy I work with, but he hasn't been showing any interest in her. She tried talking to him & flirting with him a bit when she visited me at my job the last time I worked & then a few nights ago when she & I visited my job on a day when I was off. But he didn't flirt back or even pay attention to her & he barely exchanged words with her. So now here's where the real problem comes in. He recently began showing interest in me. And I'm beginning to realize that I'm interested in him, too.
She told me she isn't even sure how much she likes him & that she basically just wants somebody to date because she doesn't like being single. So she hasn't even taken a genuine interest in him. She just thinks he's cute & told me that she "half-likes" him. Well, I "whole-like" him & I'm starting to think that he likes me, too.
So my question is, would it be wrong of me to pursue him when I originally intended for him to date my friend?
2007-02-19 15:03:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also...I only tried to set them up because I know how hard she is trying to get over her ex, but they only broke up 2 months ago & I myself have been single for over 2 years. And I have basically been revolving all of my free time around finding someone for her to date. I tend to do with with a lot of my friends, mostly her. I dedicate all of my free time to helping my friends instead of myself & I basically let people walk all over me. I've been trying to find someone for her ever since she & her ex-boyfriend started having problems a few months ago. But I would really like to find someone for myself for once instead for her or one of my other single friends. In fact, she met her ex-boyfriend through me. I set them up & they were together for 7 months. So should I honestly feel guilty about pursuing this guy?
2007-02-19 15:06:44 · update #1
Honey, all is fair in love and war.
I know you wouldn't want to hurt your friend, but what if your friend asks to be with him and he doesn't want to be part of the relationship. It seems like they aren't "all" that fond of each other anyways. I think that your friend would understand eventually that you were just going with your feeling. She might get ticked off at you but since it doesn't look like she's head over heels for the guy, she should be able to support you all the way!
2007-02-19 15:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel guilty at all. If there is a mutual attraction, then you should pursue it, regardless of your original intentions.
Things seldom go entirely along the lines of anyone's intentions..that is just a by-product of everyone having free wills...so just get over your original plans, and react to what is happening now. Good Luck.
2007-02-19 15:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't feel guilty about it. He is not interested in your friend, that won't change. You already did your friend a favor, tried to set her up with the guy, it didn't work out, it is the past. Go ahead pursue him I think your friend would understand.
2007-02-19 15:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your firend how you feel, ask her if she would mind.....
She should understand...I would!
The whole inter-office relationship thing might be something to have a think about.....
2007-02-19 15:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm NO it wouldnt be wrong. You cant help if you and him have a connection and there wasnt anything there with your friend and him.......Just go for it....Good Luck
2007-02-19 15:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tbrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO GET HIM! Do something for yourself for a change...you won't regret it!
2007-02-19 15:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by wyldefyre1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her another guy and shell forget about him.Then you can have him.
2007-02-19 15:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice: go get him.
2007-02-19 15:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋