have you ever cared for somebody?

Question

so much that your afraid to ask her out and lose everything that you've ever worked for? right now i'm that guy i care what she thinks about me and i don't want to lose her as a friend so i don't want to take the risk but deep down i wish i could i think about her everyday and it just gets me more sad to think about her
thanks in advance

i would regret never asking her but i can't ask her b/c i care for her too much i'm nt afraid but i just don't want to lose her

Answer 1

Giving up the fantasy for a possible harsh reality is hard. At least now you have hope and the 'what if'. If you say anything you will have to face it if she rejects you. I have been there.

I guess to move forward in life you have to try. You have to tell her. She may reject you or she may not. But if you are suffering now then can you imagine how you will feel if she meets someone and falls in love. You have to take a chance to gain anything. And if you fail than at least you know. You don't lose anything because you don't have anything. (and if she is a good friend then you can still be friends)

Answer 2

Been there and done that. Sit her down and say "I have something to tell you. What you do with this information is up to you. But win, lose or draw...I hope we can still be friends. I am in love with you". Then get up and walk away. Let her make the next move. You will know then whats next. Good luck to you. You sound like a really sweet guy.

Answer 3

Having to think, miss and care for somebody is a wonderful blessing of God'd gift to us. It hurts to not be there for that special someone (SS) or even hurts to know that she totally ain't into you. But rest assure that everything in life is a process that makes us grow and mold us into a better person for our future SS. Ask her out on a date and let her know you wanna treat her more differently, from being a friend to a good lover and care-giver. Good luck. If there might be achance that you failed to impress, chill and never stop the good impressions to her. She might be hooking you up in years to come.

Answer 4

I'm actually in that situation right now...kinda - my good good good friend and i have just realized that we have a thing for each other. I've heard from mutual friends that he's had a thing for me for years and I've been soo oblivious about it. I think he wants a relationship but he's worried about what might happen. He knows i don't want - no, i CAN'T have a serious relationship right now because of career choices. I really care for him and it saddens me that we can't have anything right now.

Answer 5

Listen up very carefully:

If you like her and she's single, just tell her that. If she says something along the lines of "our friendship is so valuable to me... blahblahblah" it probably means she doesn't feel about you the same way. But at least you'll have give it a shot. Just go for it man, you might be missing out already.

Answer 6

Go for it! You can not spend your life being afraid.What is the worst thing that can happen? She can say no! A no is not the end of the world.Sometimes the answer no can be a better begining towards your future.She may say yes! How will you know what she will say if you do not take the risk.Goodluck!

Answer 7

tough call. maybe you can try to ask her friend to find an answer for you. like the possibility she may date you and whether she likes you more than a friend. what do you mean you wish you can think about her everyday? if you like her that much, do the above first and followed by action! good luck!

Answer 8

If she says no and she just wants to be friends dont worry because everyone knows that your a great guy and shes missing out

Answer 9

if you care that much for her than i really think that you need to ask her out, or at least talk to her about how you feel.

definitely let her know how you feel.

Answer 10

If she moved out of the State tomorrow, would you regret not asking her out?