2007-02-19 14:22:12 · 17 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't even approach them. if you don't want to see them anymore then just don't worry about it. they will figure it out. chances are if you approach them and try to explain this to them since they are obsessive and controlling they will do anything within their power to get you to change your mind so don't even waste your time. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-19 14:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are truly obsessive and controlling-not at all. No matter what you say to this person, it is going to piss them off and make you a target. Do not have anymore contact with this person. NONE. If the person continues to call you after a few days, you tell EVERYONE that you know what is going on. If you happen to see them out, tell the person to leave you alone and do not bother you again. Document everything and get a restraining order, but don't rely on the police, rely on your family and friends to look out for you.
2007-02-19 22:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by cyntp1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be very specific and straightforward in as kind, but firm, way as possible. Say "I no longer want to see you and I wish you the very best." And then move on. Do not have any further contact with that individual. Even a hello will send him/her a mixed message. Let him/her send emails, but do not respond... no matter what. Let him/her leave voice messages, but do not respond... no matter what. They will do everything and anything possible to get a reaction out of you. You will never get away until you cut off all communication. Good luck and stay safe.
2007-02-19 22:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of person he is. Honesty is key of course. If he is abusive in any way at all, it would be best you let him down easy. Make sure you are comfortable in the situation, if you do not want to see him don't. Let your closest friends and family know that you are over this guy if it matters. Let him know that you do not want to be with someone who is controlling and you want to break up with him. Do it over the phone or through email (or both) if you are not comfortable saying it in person.
2007-02-19 22:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by ♥CJ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with him is to " not deal with him at all". Obsessive behavior is not healthy. And by associating with a person who is obsessed with you, you are enabling this behavior. Cut off all communications.
2007-02-19 22:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Corey O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control freaks do not like it when their victims try to escape. Don't approach him, just leave. Change your address, your email, your phone numbers. If he stalks you or if you are in fear for your safety, file a VPO.
2007-02-19 22:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him. say " We need to talk, I really really like you, But (name reason) and I think we are better friendship material! I want to be friends still. But I also want you to know ( Dont be mean! ) There is no possibility of US getting back together, I am sorry" Works everytime ( I would know, So like trust me okay?
2007-02-19 22:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not approach them?
Get rid of the makeup and jewelry - you are only fooling yourself
2007-02-19 22:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to him about the way you feel? If not, talk to him. Maybe he doesn't realize what he is doing. If things don't change let him know and let go. Unless he borders on psychotic, then move out of state and change your name.
2007-02-19 22:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by astudsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is not approaching him/her at all
2007-02-19 22:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Theta40 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋