I have been divorced for about 7 months, I have been dating this guy for about 5 months. He is wonderfull to me and my girls. I told him in the begining that I would never get married again, But now that we have been dating for awhile, and really gotten to know each other, I told him that I could see us being married someday, and he has changed my thoughts and feelings about marriage. Although he has said that he sees us being married one day soon. He says he scared, and that he feels it is too soon, Should I just wait around until he is ready?
2007-02-19 14:18:30 · 18 answers · asked by wildcherry26101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been seperated for 9 months after 19 years of marriage and am in the middle of divorce. Honestly ...girlfriend...I think you both need more time. You want to make sure he isn't the rebound guy and it sounds like he needs more time as well. I would give it a year. If you two are still as tight as ever then go for it. I know thats what I would do if I was in your shoes. Good Luck and Yeah to you for being out there and giving it another go!! Gives the rest of us gals hope!
2007-02-19 14:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is probably worried about is that you started dating 2 months after getting divorced. It doesn't matter how long the separation and divorce was, two months is awfully soon after the divorce. He most likely feels (and probably correctly) that he is really just a rebound or a revenge guy. You may not even realize it yet, but it is probably true. Also, most second marriages (or more) to the first person you date after a divorce, rarely work out. It is good to have relationships, but the statistics (and the experts) say it will not work out, long term.
Be happy for what you have had, and that he treated you like you probably deserve to be treated. Don't give up on marriage some day, but I would let this one go, and have good memories.
2007-02-19 14:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would things be different if you were actually married?? A piece of paper does not make you stay together. The girls have a father and a name. They would best be served by the two of you staying together forever. Marriage is about property and money which you can share with or without the license. If you can make a marriage license improve your collective lot, then do it. If it will not make you better in some way ... why do it? ~
2007-02-19 14:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to be blunt here. There was a whole 2 months between your final divorce date and the day you started dating this guy. Wait another 7 months then decide.
2007-02-19 14:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by pjvthatsme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a smart man on your side. i think you two should take it slow. your fresh out of divorce. im very surprised to hear that you are dating so soon after this divorce. whether or not hte divorce was ugly you shoul give yourself time to mourn the loss of a failed relationship or at least take a breake for a while just to collect your true thoughts and feelings. dont rush things or youll be back asking this same quest ion only with another "love."
2007-02-19 14:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have got to wait
i kno you want a constant father for your kids and u want that companionship a husband gives but marriage is a tuff thing darlin
and it is a huge step in the relationship
youve known each other 5 months?
id give it another year before considering it
you want a guy who u love and loves you a guy who knos ur insides and out
i guy u kno for certain you can spend your life with finding a guy worthly of these things take time
and knowing you have that guy takes time alot longer than 5 months
wait for him but also wait for you
it hurts breaking up a marriage and you dont want to rush into one without bein sure of everything!
2007-02-19 14:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by leandrasmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy what you have, He says he sees you getting married soon, but not right away. If you can see youself with him foreverish, then just wait. Why rush for a piece of paper?
2007-02-19 14:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Minton quest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're all ready waiting around. I think it's best to wait a year before making wedding plans
2007-02-19 14:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, definitely! you haven't been divorced long and you have only been dating him for 5 months! wait till both of you are ready and have no fear or doubts! what's the point rushing?
2007-02-19 14:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just wait, time will give all the answers in the world.
2007-02-19 14:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋